On Attachment #169: Self-Sabotage: Why We Do It & How to Break Free
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Dec 10, 2024 Explore the intricate world of self-sabotage, from procrastination to pushing loved ones away. Discover how these patterns often stem from a misguided desire for safety rooted in attachment styles. Delve into the emotional toll, including shame and frustration, that accompanies these behaviors. Uncover the fears and limiting beliefs that keep us stuck, and learn effective strategies to shift these cycles towards personal growth and supportive habits.
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Self-Sabotage as Protection
- Self-sabotage occurs when parts of us feel unsafe pursuing desires.
- Reframing it as a protective mechanism promotes growth.
Addressing Self-Sabotage
- Ask yourself what makes achieving your goal feel unsafe.
- Identify what you need to feel safe enough to pursue it.
Example: Job Interview
- Someone might get drunk before a job interview, sabotaging their chances.
- This could stem from feeling unworthy or fearing rejection.