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Unlearn Silence: How to Speak Up Without Regret - Elaine Lin Hering

Mar 23, 2025

Elaine Lin Hering, a trained lawyer and leadership expert, discusses her transformative book, "Unlearning Silence." She delves into the reasons many avoid difficult conversations and how this impacts personal and professional lives. Hering shares practical tools for breaking free from silence, emphasizing self-inquiry and the quest for authentic voice. She also addresses the vital role of leaders in fostering open communication and advocates for men's allyship in promoting diverse voices in meetings. This conversation is a roadmap for anyone seeking a more expressive life.

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Elaine Lin Hering

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Quick takeaways

Recognizing and confronting the ingrained silence that hinders negotiation skills is essential for personal growth and effective communication.

Understanding the cultural dynamics that influence individual expression is crucial for creating inclusive environments where diverse voices are valued.

Deep dives

The Impact of Silence on Negotiation

Many individuals struggle with initiating difficult conversations due to learned behaviors surrounding silence. Often, people have been conditioned to remain silent in professional settings, as speaking up can be seen as disruptive or undesirable. This ingrained silence can hinder effective negotiation and lead to suppressed needs and interests. Recognizing the necessity to confront this relationship with silence is crucial for personal growth in negotiation skills.

Intro

2min

Breaking the Silence in Negotiation

8min

Challenging Internalized Assumptions and the Silence Trap

3min

Breaking the Silence

6min

Finding Your Voice: The Power of Self-Inquiry

13min

Empowering Voices in Meetings

12min

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This episode is essential for anyone looking to break free from the constraints of silence to lead a more fulfilled, authentic, and vocal life. Whether you’re striving to assert your ideas more confidently, aiming to create a more inclusive and expressive workplace, or simply seeking to live more fully, “Unlearning Silence” offers the opportunity and the tools needed for change.

Join Kwame Christian, CEO of the American Negotiation Institute, for an exclusive LinkedIn Live event as he sits down with Elaine Lin Hering, author of the transformative book, “Unlearning Silence: How to Speak Your Mind, Unleash Talent, and Live More Fully.” This paradigm-shifting discussion will delve into the pervasive influence of silence in our personal and professional lives and explore practical strategies for dismantling these barriers to truly find and use our voices.

You'll learn:

Insightful Analysis: Understand the deep-seated reasons behind why we choose silence over speaking out and how this affects our careers and personal lives.

Practical Tools: Learn concrete strategies from Elaine Lin Hering on how to break the cycle of silence, making more intentional choices about your presence at home and at work.

Real-life Applications: Gain insights through real-life examples discussed by Hering, illustrating the impact of unlearning silence.

Guided Road Map: Receive a clear, actionable road map for navigating the challenges of speaking your truth and unleashing your full potential.

Empowerment: Discover how unlearning silence can not only transform your own life but also create a ripple effect that empowers those around you.

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