Good hinge partners prioritize seeking support from external sources, such as friends and therapists, to avoid relying solely on romantic relationships for emotional needs.
Effective time management, scheduling, and clear communication are essential traits for being a good hinge partner, utilizing tools like Google Calendar to prevent conflicts and honor commitments.
Establishing and maintaining personal boundaries, communicating needs honestly, and avoiding negative comparisons between partners are crucial for being a good hinge partner and fostering positive relationships.
Deep dives
Having External Sources of Support for Hinge Partners
Good hinge partners should seek support from sources outside their romantic relationships. This includes friends, mentors, coaches, or therapists to provide additional emotional support and avoid triangulation.
Time Management and Scheduling Skills
A key trait for good hinges is effective time management, scheduling, and communication. They use tools like Google Calendar and plan ahead to address scheduling conflicts early, ensuring commitments are honored and conflicts are minimized.
Setting and Upholding Boundaries
Hinge partners must establish and maintain personal boundaries ethically and communicate their needs clearly. They prioritize self-care, express their desires honestly, and only agree to what they can commit to, while avoiding hyper-boundaried rigidity.
Avoiding Negative Comparisons Among Partners
Good hinges refrain from negative comparisons between their partners, fostering positive relationships. They do not highlight one partner's weaknesses compared to another's strengths, internally or externally, aiming to treat each partner respectfully and fairly.
Understanding Structural Imbalances and Sensitivity
Hinge partners should be aware of structural imbalances, such as shared living arrangements or hierarchical setups, and strive to counterbalance these imbalances within relationships. A keen sensitivity to partner privileges and connections helps maintain equity and understanding.
Being a hinge partner can be tough sometimes. This episode focuses on some unique struggles that hinge partners may face, some common pitfalls, and what it takes to be a good hinge partner.
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