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The Sabrina Zohar Show

101: Chasing Potential And Putting Them On A Pedestal With Silvy Khoucasian

Oct 11, 2024
Silvy Khoucasian, a relationship coach and writer specializing in attachment styles, reflects on her journey with fearful-avoidant attachment. She discusses the tendency to chase potential in partners and the pitfalls of idealizing them, which prevents genuine intimacy. Silvy shares insights from her experience, emphasizing the need for self-awareness, honest communication, and understanding one's emotional needs. They explore the impact of childhood traumas on adult relationships and offer practical tips for fostering healthier connections.
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Quick takeaways

  • Chasing potential in relationships often arises from unresolved childhood trauma, leading to unrealistic expectations and disappointments with partners.
  • Attachment styles profoundly influence relationship dynamics, with anxious individuals seeking validation through idealization while avoidant types may withdraw under emotional demands.

Deep dives

Understanding Chasing Potential

Chasing potential often stems from an unresolved desire for validation and hope for change in others. This is particularly prevalent in relationships where one partner idealizes the other, placing them on a pedestal and believing they can be transformed into something greater. This dynamic creates an imbalance, leading to disappointment when the person fails to live up to these unrealistic expectations. Ultimately, the need to chase potential can stem from a desire to heal past wounds or fulfill unmet needs from earlier relationships.

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