In this insightful talk, Dr. Laurie Santos, a Yale psychology professor known for her popular happiness course, dives into why New Year's resolutions often fail. She discusses the power of self-compassion, advocating for it as a more effective motivator than shame. Laurie critiques traditional goals, like dieting, proposing a shift towards intuitive eating and joyful movement. Additionally, she explores misconceptions about wealth and happiness and emphasizes the importance of processing emotions and practicing gratitude for a fulfilling life.
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Fresh Start Effect
New Year's resolutions leverage the "fresh start effect", increasing motivation at temporal breaks.
While beneficial, resolutions often fail due to poor goal selection and unrealistic expectations.
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Mindset over Circumstances
Focus on resolutions that change mindsets and behaviors, not just circumstances.
Prioritize changes like increased presence, gratitude, or compassion over solely material goals.
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Self-Compassion as an Uber Resolution
Self-compassion is an "uber resolution" benefiting other goals and overall well-being.
It promotes healthier habits like better eating and exercise by fostering kindness towards oneself.
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New Year’s Series Episode 4. Today we’re going to dive into the science behind why so many of us get New Year's resolutions so wrong -- and how we can do better. My guest is Dr. Laurie Santos. As you may remember, she made her debut on this show just over a month ago, in an episode about how to handle the pandemic winter blues. She was such a font of practical wisdom that we almost immediately invited her back. Laurie is a tenured psychology professor at Yale, where she teaches a massively popular course on happiness. She also hosts an excellent podcast called The Happiness Lab, where right now, she’s doing a series of episodes along a very similar theme--what she’s calling “anti-resolutions”--so I definitely recommend checking that out. In today’s conversation, we talk about why resolutions are a thing in the first place; why they so often go pear-shaped; and common pitfalls and misunderstandings in our attempts to lose weight, exercise more, or make more money. As we’ve been stressing in our New Year’s series, Laurie argues that one powerful antidote to our resolution morass is self-compassion. As we’ve been saying throughout our series, the research shows that self-compassion is much better fuel for habit change than our usual mode of shame. I have been referring to it as a kind of uber-habit, out of which all other habits can flow. Join Laurie Santos in the New Year’s Challenge: https://challenges.tenpercent.com/?challenge=new-years-2021&challenge_invite=gDTcpTfZgSdFXZvhtG6u3sSe&challenge_title=New%20Year%27s%20Challenge How to join the New Year’s Challenge: Join the New Year's Challenge by downloading the Ten Percent Happier app : https://10percenthappier.app.link/install. You should be prompted to join the Challenge after registering your account. If you've already downloaded the app, just open it up or visit this link to join: https://10percenthappier.app.link/NewYearsChallenge21 Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/laurie-santos-312
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