9 Mistakes We Make in Love and Relationships

Dec 10, 2021

Dive into the pitfalls of love and relationships with insights on common mistakes we all make. Explore how idealizing your partner can suffocate their individuality. Learn about the dangers of staying too long out of fear, and discover the importance of prioritizing personal identity over becoming someone’s everything. Celebrate the value of shared experiences instead of forced compatibility, and understand how fear can impact your choices in love. It's a journey of self-discovery and mutual growth!

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ADVICE

Don't Lose Yourself

Avoid making someone your everything in a relationship; they can be important, but not your sole purpose.
Cultivate your own routines, rituals, passions, and purpose to maintain your individuality.

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Love the Present, Not the Potential

Be with someone for who they are now, not their potential, unless you're patient and accept them as is.
Recognize there's more to love than productivity, organization, or ambition; sometimes simplicity is lovable.

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Borrowed Belief vs. Self-Investment

Borrowed belief can provide temporary strength but must evolve into self-investment.
If someone is trying to change for you, they might become bitter because of you, requiring true discernment.

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What are your expectations in your current relationship? Do you wish for your partner to like the things that you like, enjoy the things that you enjoy doing, and share the same passion with you? Or do you want your partner to carve their own path along with you?

In many relationships, this idealism that your partner needs to like what you like, love what you love, and hate what you hate in the pretext that it should be how they show their love for you can be toxic. It can strip away your partner's identity and freedom. It can be suffocating.

In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty tells us the common mistakes we make that don't help our relationships grow and what you can do now to strengthen it.

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Key Takeaways:

00:00 Intro
01:41 The mistakes we make in a relationship
02:58 Mistake #1: We make someone our everything
07:28 Mistake #2: You’re with someone for they could be, not for who they are
12:33 Mistake #3: You stay too long because you’re scared to be seen as the bad person
15:04 Mistake #4: We trade time with our partners instead of creating new experiences
16:39 Mistake #5: You want them to like what you like
18:12 Mistake #6: You don’t take the time to understand why they are the way they are
20:06 Mistake #7: You talk to too many people but not to the person you’re in a relationship with
21:31 Mistake #8: You’re mad at them for the sacrifices you made that they didn’t ask for
23:47 Mistake #9: Know the difference between ownership, partnership, and relationship

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