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Conversations with Dr. Jennifer

Coping with Conflict: Moving Beyond Losing Strategies

Jan 9, 2024
Dr. Finlayson-Fife, a relationship dynamics expert, and Anne Nelson, a relationship coach specializing in collaborative communication, unpack the hidden potential of conflict in relationships. They emphasize that disagreements can foster growth if addressed constructively. The discussion highlights the damaging instinct to resort to losing strategies and explores the importance of self-awareness and humility. They also touch on the unique challenges in conflict-avoidant marriages and stress the necessity of honesty for true intimacy.
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Quick takeaways

  • Conflict should be embraced in marriages as a catalyst for growth, rather than avoided, to enhance emotional connection and intimacy.
  • Recognizing and addressing unhealthy patterns from one's family of origin is essential for breaking cycles of negativity and fostering personal accountability.

Deep dives

The Role of Conflict in Marriage

Conflict is a natural part of marriage that should not be avoided, as it can actually help couples grow closer. Many people mistakenly believe that a happy marriage should be free of conflict, leading to suppressed emotions like resentment and contempt. Accepting and managing differences is crucial for building a strong partnership, as it highlights the need for honest communication and vulnerability. Healthy conflict resolution fosters intimacy and connection, ensuring that a marriage is grounded in authenticity rather than a facade of perpetual bliss.

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