John and Vanessa discuss relationships, codependency, attachment styles, fighting without fighting, and creating new experiences. They share personal insights as therapists. Join their couples retreat for deeper exploration.
Breaking free from past relationship patterns enhances authentic connections.
Deep dives
Understanding Codependency in Relationships
Codependency is a common struggle in relationships, impacting individuals differently. Recognizing the roots and manifestations of codependency is vital for fostering interdependence rather than losing oneself in a relationship. It involves addressing people-pleasing tendencies, boundary issues, and societal influences on love definitions. By grasping this concept individually and within the relationship, progress towards healthier dynamics can be achieved.
Loving Without Your Past Influences
Loving without being weighed down by past relationship patterns is crucial for personal and relational growth. Acknowledging and breaking free from ingrained behaviors and thoughts carried over from previous relationships can lead to a more authentic and fulfilling connection. Understanding how past experiences influence current actions allows individuals to engage in relationships with greater self-awareness and intentionality.
Effective Conflict Resolution and Building Secure Relationships
Learning how to navigate and resolve conflicts constructively is foundational for relationship success. By developing skills in conflict resolution and repair, couples can strengthen their bond and trust. Understanding attachment styles, such as anxious and avoidant tendencies, provides insights into individual responses during conflicts, fostering mutual understanding and growth. Implementing strategies to fight without damaging the relationship promotes a healthy balance of resolving disagreements while enhancing emotional safety and connection.
In this episode, John and Vanessa discuss various aspects of relationships and provide insights and strategies for building healthier connections. They draw from their personal experiences as licensed marriage and family therapists and individuals who have been in multiple relationships. They also cover topics such as codependency, loving without past baggage, attachment styles and love languages, fighting without fighting, and creating new experiences in relationships.
Want to dive more into these topics as a couple? John and Vanessa are hosting an in person couples retreat in Idyllwild, CA April 19-21st! You can find more information and sign up here: https://theangrytherapist.circle.so/c/inmiy-retreat-mainfeed/
Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best-selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and documents his journey as a therapist but more importantly, as a human being.