Dr Em, an expert in Truth vs Harmony, discusses the battle between living truthfully or harmoniously. The podcast explores the impact on individuals and relationships, highlighting the importance of balance, assertiveness, and authenticity. Emphasizing the challenges faced by chronic people-pleasers and the power of speaking truth in relationships.
Choosing between truth and harmony affects relationships and self-expression.
Prioritizing others' needs can lead to resentment and disconnection in relationships.
Deep dives
The Need for Attachment and Approval
The podcast delves into the fundamental human need for belonging, starting with attachment to primary caregivers in childhood. It highlights how individuals seek approval throughout their lives, often rooted in seeking parental and societal acceptance. The discussion emphasizes how early environments, whether supportive or critical, shape individuals' approaches to conflict resolution and expressing needs.
People Pleasing and Adaptive Behavior
The episode explores the tendency towards people-pleasing and the societal reinforcement of accommodating behavior. It discusses how individuals may learn to prioritize pleasing others as a means of ensuring safety and avoiding conflict. The podcast touches on the adaptive nature of such behavior in challenging environments, reinforcing the belief that pleasing others is essential for safety and acceptance.
Assertion and Authenticity in Relationships
The podcast emphasizes the importance of speaking one's truth and setting boundaries in relationships. It discusses the impact of choosing harmony over asserting one's needs, leading to feelings of resentment and disconnection. By expressing authentic needs and concerns, individuals can deepen connections, foster authenticity, and avoid internalizing unresolved emotions that may lead to loneliness or depression.
In this episode of The Imperfix we revisit one of our most popular episodes ever and in it, a topic that is very close to Hugh, Ryan and Josh’s respective bones. The ongoing battle of Truth vs Harmony.
Do you choose to live truthfully? Or harmoniously? And what does that even mean? And how does living ‘truthfully’ or ‘harmoniously’ affect us and the people around us?
To listen to the full Truth Vs Harmony episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3IW3gbw
The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.