Dr. Robert Glover, author of the influential book No More Mr. Nice Guy, dives into the hidden struggles of 'nice guys' and their quest for validation. He discusses the rise of nice guy culture, the detrimental effects of social media on masculinity, and how to improve dating in the age of apps. Glover also explores the paradox of modern ease vs. meaningful challenges, emphasizing the importance of authentic connections. Finally, he highlights coaching programs that empower men towards personal growth and navigating complex male sexuality.
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Nice Guy Definition
Nice guys often mask deep insecurities by trying to be what others want.
This leads to inauthenticity, conflict avoidance, and seeking external validation.
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Recognizing Nice Guy Behavior
It's difficult for nice guys to recognize their behavior because it feels normal.
Wake-up calls or seeing a contrasting perspective can help them realize their patterns.
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Generational Impact on Nice Guys
Societal shifts, including absent fathers and feminism, contributed to nice guy traits in older generations.
Millennials and Gen Z are increasingly raised by nice guy fathers, exacerbating the issue.
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Dr. Robert Glover is the author of No More Mr. Nice Guy - A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want In Love, Sex and Life.
Since the book was published in 2000, its sales have continued to rise as men grapple with their tendencies to accommodate, acquiesce, and appease their way through life.
Turns out, nice guys aren't very nice after all.
Robert and James sat down to discuss why there are more nice guys now than ever, how social media and the modern education system are negatively affecting masculinity, and how to fix your dating life in the era of swipe-right apps.
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