Guest Michael Lomax discusses 10 paradigm shifts for high conflict mediation, focusing on active client participation, problem-solving, and avoiding apologies. The podcast explores the importance of empowering parties, navigating high conflict individuals, and maintaining a positive approach in mediation.
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Focus on Choices
Avoid giving parties insight into themselves during mediation.
Focus on present choices, not past behaviors, to avoid defensiveness.
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Future Focus
Emphasize the future, not the past, in high-conflict mediation.
Discussing the past can trigger negative emotions and hinder problem-solving.
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Avoid Emotional Focus
Avoid emotional confrontations and probing questions about feelings.
High-conflict individuals often get stuck in anger, so focusing on feelings can be counterproductive.
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Mediating high conflict disputes requires a shift from many standard mediation approaches. When one or more of the parties has a high conflict personality, the process should have more structure and focus away from common mediation topics, such as emotions, the past, and interests, and instead focus more strictly on problem-solving. By having the clients participate more actively in the process – and the mediator serve more as a guide for their active participation – they are more likely to reach their own agreements and follow them.
In today’s episode, Bill and Megan talk with attorney/mediator Michael Lomax, co-author of Mediating High Conflict Disputes (Unhooked Books, 2021) about 10 paradigm shifts that are necessary for mediating high conflict disputes, and serve as the backbone for the New Ways for Mediation®. They will also discuss why to avoid mediating apologies.
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