A Therapist’s Attempt To Find Daily Peace For Herself and Millions Of Others w/ Nedra Glover Tawwab
Nov 4, 2024
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Nedra Glover Tawwab, a licensed therapist and bestselling author, explores the quest for personal peace and self-discovery. She shares the inspiration behind her book, 'Consider This,' which serves as a daily guide for finding tranquility. Topics include recognizing and guarding against negative energy, the importance of boundaries in relationships, and navigating the evolution of friendships. Nedra emphasizes the significance of self-care and personal responsibility in promoting well-being, making her insights vital for anyone seeking inner calm.
Establishing healthy boundaries is essential for maintaining personal peace and fostering respect in relationships while guarding against negative energy.
Prioritizing self-care by nurturing one's emotional needs can cultivate compassion, leading to greater personal peace and overall well-being.
Understanding the nature of anxiety—distinguishing real threats from perceived fears—empowers individuals to confront challenges and promote emotional resilience.
Deep dives
The Importance of Boundaries
Establishing healthy boundaries is essential for maintaining peace in relationships. It involves understanding the difference between holding a grudge and setting a boundary; while grudges stem from anger and the desire to punish others, boundaries are about protecting oneself and fostering respect. The discussion highlights the ongoing journey toward recognizing when boundaries are needed and the internal motivations behind them. Acknowledging that boundaries can be set with a peaceful and respectful demeanor is crucial for sustaining both personal and relational well-being.
The Power of Self-Nurturing
Self-care is often overlooked, yet it is vital for personal peace and well-being. By nurturing oneself as one would a small child, individuals can cultivate a sense of compassion and care within their own lives. This includes being mindful of one's emotional needs and ensuring that they are met with the same attention that a parent would provide to their child. Recognizing that adults are responsible for their own nourishment—physically, emotionally, and mentally—can lead to a more fulfilled and peaceful existence.
Facing Anxiety with Empathy
Anxiety often manifests without a tangible threat, creating a disconnect between feelings and reality. Understanding whether anxiety is based on actual risks or simply perceived fears is crucial for managing it effectively. By discerning the sources of anxiety, individuals can learn to confront situations instead of avoiding them, which may lead to personal growth and emotional resilience. Emphasizing the importance of self-talk and exposure to fears can help alleviate anxiety while fostering a sense of empowerment.
The Value of Authentic Sharing
Authentic communication involves more than just sharing accomplishments; it requires vulnerability and honesty. People are encouraged to express their challenges and feelings rather than only showcasing their successes, which can create deeper connections with others. This shift encourages a culture where sharing struggles becomes normalized and fosters empathy and understanding. Recognizing that everyone experiences a range of emotions can lead to healthier interactions and support systems.
Re-evaluating Relationships
The significance of friendships evolves over time, and forming new connections can be just as fulfilling as maintaining long-standing ones. As individuals grow, so do their interests and values, making the development of new friendships vital for personal growth. Embracing the idea that new friends can bring enriching experiences while cherishing the history of old friends can create a balanced social support system. This perspective helps individuals to remain open to new relationships that resonate with their current selves instead of clinging only to the past.
Nedra Glover Tawwab is the author of the New York Times bestsellers Drama Free and Set Boundaries, Find Peace and I’ve had her on this show to talk about the messages in both of those books. Boundaries specifically is an area I greatly struggle with. Nedra is a licensed therapist and renowned relationship expert and has appeared as an expert on The Red Table Talk, The Breakfast Club, Good Morning America, and CBS This Morning, to name a few. She has a popular Instagram account @nedratawwab with over 1.8 million followers and recently spent a year posting what she called, daily nuggets, with the goal of uplifting, supporting and guiding her audience deeper into themselves. But what she revealed was that her primary muse was herself. These writings were what she needed to hear and hold onto for herself. She created a book from the entire year called, Consider This: Reflections For Finding Peace. The book has no chapters and is more like a daily devotional for peace. As you’ll hear at the top of our discussion, I feel like the book is an antidote for anxiety. I literally started at the first page and just started pulling out topics that resonated with me. We covered topics such as being aware of the energy we feel from others and guarding ourselves against negative energy. The benefit of making new friends and questioning some of our old friends. Paying attention to the signs when our peace is eroding and Nedra talked about an eye twitch she gets that’s a tell tale sign for her.. When it's appropriate to share about yourself. The difference between a grudge and a boundary. When is anxiety warranted? I think you’ll be inspired and equipped.
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