Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

Healing Cycles of Trauma with Dr. Mariel Buqué

Jan 8, 2024

01:19:17

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Dr. Mariel Buqué, an expert in healing trauma and creating healthier patterns, joins the podcast to discuss intergenerational trauma, insight, and the tools that help people break intergenerational patterns. Topics include motivation for healing, courage within family systems, stimulating the ventral vagal nerve, and creating an intergenerational trauma tree.

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Quick takeaways

Intergenerational trauma can be passed down through generations, leading to patterns of suffering and unhealthy coping mechanisms.

Healing from trauma requires vulnerability, allowing emotions to surface, and engaging in therapeutic practices like talk therapy, meditation, and mindfulness.

A phasic model for trauma healing involves grounding and stabilizing the nervous system, delving into intergenerational trauma, and integrating healthier behaviors.

Deep dives

Recognizing the Call to Help Others

Dr. Mario Bouquet reflects on her personal journey and how her desire to help others was present from a young age. She recalls witnessing the suffering of her family and community and feeling a deep urge to make a difference. Through therapy and self-reflection, she found her calling to become a psychologist and support people in their healing process.

Introduction

4min

The Journey of Healing and Transformation

7min

Exploring Intergenerational Trauma

28min

Healing Tools and Practices

6min

The Power of Play Therapy and Recognizing Children's Authentic Experiences

2min

Understanding Intergenerational Trauma

10min

Reimagining Trauma Healing

21min

Dr. Mariel Buqué joins the podcast to help us learn how we can heal from the past, create healthier patterns, and break cycles of trauma. Forrest and Dr. Buqué talk about what intergenerational trauma is, how we can “hand trauma down,” and how these problematic patterns show up in the real world. They focus on what helps someone take the first steps, the key role of insight, and moving from insight to action. Along the way, Dr. Buqué shares the powerful tools that help people resource themselves to do the hard work of breaking intergenerational patterns.

About our Guest: Dr. Mariel Buqué received her doctorate in counseling psychology from Columbia University, and her work has been featured on major media outlets like The Today Show and Good Morning America. She’s the author of the new book Break the Cycle: A Guide to Healing Intergenerational Trauma, and host of the podcast by the same name.

You can watch this episode on YouTube.

Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

1:15: What drew Mariel to this work

10:25: How Mariel thinks about intergenerational trauma

17:00: Common patterns of her clients

20:00: Most people’s initial motivation to find healing

24:45: Courage and vulnerability with the people in our family systems

33:20: Grounding, excavating the family tree, finding healthy alternative patterns

39:40: Practices for stimulating the ventral vagal nerve

44:05: Finding a way in to healing that is accessible to you

47:40: Creating an intergenerational trauma tree

55:00: Finding steadiness when the emotional floodgates open

58:00: The shortcomings of the western medical outlook

1:00:45: Integration, and creating a short buffer between stimulus and response

1:06:15: Values and healthy pride

1:08:40: Recap

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