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How to Lovehack Your Marriage, With Psychologist Eli Finkel

Sep 13, 2021

37:08

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Is Intelligence a Fixed Attribute?

02:23

Do You Want to Be Right or You Want to Be Happy?

04:15

Making External Attributions for Your Partner's Bad Behavior

04:54

Introduction

2min

The Slow's Hierarchy of Needs

3min

How to Have a Better Marriage?

4min

What Makes a Compatible Partnership in This Dayin Age?

4min

Making External Attributions for Your Partner's Bad Behavior

5min

The Love Hacks Aren't Time Consuming, Right?

2min

Is Intelligence a Fixed Attribute?

2min

Do You Have a Neutral Third Party Perspective on Conflict?

3min

Do You Want to Be Right or You Want to Be Happy?

4min

10.

Are You Asking Less of Your Relationship?

5min

11.

I've Never Had a Personal Trainer, but I Feel Like I Need One

3min

This week we're learning how to strengthen the health of our marriages with help from psychologist Eli Finkel. Eli is a professor at Northwestern University and the author of the bestselling book The All-or-Nothing Marriage: How the Best Marriages Work. Listen to hear Eli's tips on why marriage today is such a challenging (and potentially rewarding) endeavor, how to reframe your thinking in an argument with a partner, and why "lovehacks" are a great first step in trying to improve your marriage.

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