Dr. Mariel Buqué, a trauma psychologist and author, discusses how trauma is passed down through generations and provides daily tools for healing. Topics include cultural context, ancestral wisdom, stress reduction techniques, and breaking intergenerational cycles. This powerful episode emphasizes the importance of processing and healing wounds to create personal growth and resilience.
Intergenerational trauma can be passed down through DNA and cultural context plays a vital role in the healing process.
The STILL method - Stop Temperature Inhale Launch - helps regulate the nervous system and facilitates healing and growth through self-soothing and boundary-setting.
Manifestation empowers individuals to create the life they desire by addressing limiting beliefs and actively working towards their goals using scientific principles.
Deep dives
Understanding intergenerational trauma and its impact
Intergenerational trauma is a unique emotional experience that can be passed down from generation to generation. It is a combination of biological factors, such as genetic expressions and cellular memory, and psychological factors that shape our responses to the world. By recognizing the living embodied history within each person, we can foster greater compassion and understanding. Research suggests that ancestral wisdom and resilience can also be passed down through generations, providing strengths and innate knowledge. Exploring our intergenerational trauma and resilience allows us to shed shame, heal past traumas, and create a lighter future.
The power of stillness for healing and regulating the nervous system
The STILL method, Stop Temperature Inhale Launch, is a technique that helps us work with triggers and proactively regulate our nervous system responses. By imagining a stop sign, engaging in cold water stimulation, taking deep breaths, and temporarily removing ourselves from triggering situations, we can self-soothe and allow our nervous system to settle. This practice builds mastery and prepares us to re-engage in healthier interactions, fostering connection and healing. The STILL method empowers individuals to calmly navigate conflicts, set boundaries, and take accountability, leading to genuine healing and growth.
Manifestation as a tool for transforming lives
Manifestation is a scientifically proven method of creating the life we desire. By tapping into our subconscious beliefs and addressing limiting beliefs and patterns, we can manifest love, money, career success, and more. Recognizing that we have the power to create tangible results based on neuroplasticity, psychology, epigenetics, and energetics allows us to take control of our lives. Instead of settling for unfulfilling relationships or unsatisfying circumstances, manifestation invites us to envision and actively create the experiences, relationships, and abundance that align with the authenticity of who we are.
Coping mechanisms and the impact of collective trauma
The podcast episode discusses the various coping mechanisms that individuals adopt when under stress. These coping mechanisms can include yelling, avoidance, substance use, and gambling. The podcast highlights the importance of recognizing these coping patterns and having compassion for both oneself and others. Additionally, the episode delves into the concept of collective trauma and how it permeates various aspects of society, including institutions, policies, and laws. The responsibility to address and heal from collective trauma is emphasized, both on an individual level and through community and educational systems.
Teaching emotional intelligence to future generations
The episode emphasizes the importance of teaching children emotional intelligence and providing them with the tools to navigate their emotions. It calls for the inclusion of socio-emotional learning in educational systems and encourages parents to create an environment where children can express themselves and feel validated. The importance of adults developing emotional literacy themselves is highlighted, as they play a crucial role in teaching and modeling emotional intelligence to future generations. The episode also discusses the need for comprehensive healing circles and conversations centered around breaking cycles of trauma, fostering support, and creating a sense of possibility and connection.
Since all of us in TBM world are committed to identifying and unblocking our limiting beliefs, today’s episode is going to be a game-changer. Meet Dr. Mariel Buqué, a leading trauma psychologist and author of Break the Cycle: A Guide to Healing Intergenerational Trauma. Dr. Mariel is here to help us understand how trauma is passed down through generations, how we experience collective trauma, and how we can start moving toward healing. In this episode, you’ll learn some tangible daily tools—breathing exercises, grounding practices, and more—to help move through stress and reduce the overwhelm we’re all faced with at different points throughout our lives. This transformative episode weaves cultural context, ancestral wisdom, and practical healing techniques into a powerful tapestry for personal growth and resilience. It’s an important reminder – we all have the ability to process and heal our wounds, to break intergenerational cycles, and to be the catalyst for change in our own lives.
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In This Episode We Talk About:
The importance of cultural context and cultural nuance in healing
How trauma can be passed down in DNA
The histories that live within you
Intergenerational wisdom and resilience
Tuning into the pings from your ancestors for both comfort and safety
Navigating stress, overwhelm, and allostatic overload
Breathing, rocking, and humming as accessible tools to undo daily stress
How self-awareness plays a role in navigating triggers and stress
Developing a steady practice of grounding
Understanding shame and learning to disrupt a shame cycle
A breakdown of The Still method to work with triggers
Collective and individual coping mechanisms
The systemic conditions that contribute to trauma and working to help build systems to support future generations
THEMES / TIME STAMPS:
Generational trauma defined (00:15:05)
Tools and techniques to navigate stress (00:39:40)
Boundaries, changes, and navigating family dynamics (01:00:30)