Discover the vital distinction between influencing behavior and controlling it. The discussion highlights how parents can navigate their responsibilities without falling into the trap of blame. Learn about the impact of attachment on child behavior and how to foster self-compassion as a caregiver. Unravel the complexities of emotional management to create healthier relationships, supporting your child's development while addressing those baffling behaviors.
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Influence vs. Control
Parents heavily influence their children's behavior through co-regulation, connection, and safety.
However, they cannot control a child's reception of these offerings or their ultimate behavioral outcomes.
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Parental Responsibility
Parents have a responsibility to positively influence their children's behavior.
This involves fostering co-regulation, connection, and a sense of safety, but not controlling their responses.
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Focus on Self-Regulation
Focus on self-regulation, connection, and personal safety.
Recognize each nervous system heals at its own pace.
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Understanding the difference between having influence over behavior vs. control can help you get clear on what to focus on.
One of the trickier parts of the work I do is talking so much with parents about attachment, their role in co-regulation, and felt-safety, without snagging into parent’s shame about every parent's deepest worry- that their child’s baffling behaviors are all their fault.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
What it means to influence, not control
What your real responsibility is in influencing behavior
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