Understanding the difference between having influence over behavior vs. control can help you get clear on what to focus on.
One of the trickier parts of the work I do is talking so much with parents about attachment, their role in co-regulation, and felt-safety, without snagging into parent’s shame about every parent's deepest worry- that their child’s baffling behaviors are all their fault.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- What it means to influence, not control
- What your real responsibility is in influencing behavior
- Responsibility does not equal blame
- How to acknowledge influence without shame
Read a summary or the full transcript at:
robyngobbel.com/influencebehaviors
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