Optimal Relationships Daily - Dating, Marriage and Parenting 2465: The Dance Between Intimacy and Independence in Marriage by David and Constantino Khalaf of Gottman Institute
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Jan 26, 2025 Explore the delicate balance between intimacy and independence in marriage. The hosts share personal insights as an introverted couple, emphasizing the power of open communication and empathy. They reveal how understanding each other's need for space can prevent resentment and strengthen emotional connections. Viewing this dynamic as a dance, rather than a tug of war, encourages collaboration and mutual support, helping couples navigate their unique attachment styles with care.
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Couple's Introversion
- David and Constantino, both introverts, navigate intimacy and independence in their marriage.
- Constantino, a "duovert," recharges alone or with David, while David needs solitude.
The Dance of Marriage
- One partner often ignores the other's needs, not out of malice, but due to differing intimacy/independence needs.
- Marriage is a dance between these needs, with conflict arising when partners' needs diverge.
Expressing Needs
- David struggles to express his need for independence, fearing rejection and having difficulty identifying it.
- Constantino recognizes David's need and offers him alone time, strengthening their bond.
