511 | Friendships with ADHD - with Trina Haynes

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Nov 28, 2023

Trina Haynes, founder of My Lady ADHD, joins the show to discuss the struggles of making and maintaining friendships with ADHD. They cover topics such as executive functions, perceived rejections, and the difficulty of making friends post-lockdown. Trina also shares lessons learned from friendships that didn't last and emphasizes the importance of clear communication and balance in friendships.

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Introduction

00:00 • 2min

The Challenges of Maintaining Friendships with ADHD

02:17 • 13min

Introversion, State Shifting, and Creating a Neurodivergent Community

15:18 • 10min

Challenges of Maintaining Friendships with ADHD

24:58 • 17min

Challenges of Maintaining Friendships with ADHD

41:38 • 3min

Improving Focus and Attention with the Focus Omadic 3000

44:22 • 2min

AI Keyboard App and Crafting Hard Messages

46:13 • 7min

Conclusion and Call to Action

53:25 • 3min

This week, Trina Haynes from MyLadyADHD joins the show! Trina is the founder of My Lady ADHD, which empowers and supports individuals facing ADHD challenges! She created a safe space and vibrant community for women, drawing from her own personal ADHD journey. Trina is also the host of the My Lady ADHD Podcast, and is the cofounder of Get Lost Retreats, featuring regular ADHD women's retreats around the globe!

Learn more about Trina at MyLadyADHD.com! (click here!)
Check out Get Lost Retreats at getlostretreats.com (click here!)

Questions/Topics:

[00:00:42] Introducing Trina
[00:01:55] Eric and Trina talk about the struggle of making friends and maintaining friendships
[00:06:45] Executive functions, planning & scheduling, maintenance, and avoidance
[00:07:47] Perceived rejections, shame, and assuming the best of intentions
[00:10:18] Connecting with ADHDers vs. connecting with neurotypicals
[00:11:25] An ADHD moment… then, a discussion on fizzled-out friendships
[00:14:18] The difficulty of making friends after lockdown and isolation
[00:15:15] Introversion, extroversion, and recovery time
[00:16:44] FOMO (fear of missing out) and the challenge of transitions to stop when being with friends
[00:23:44] Another ADHD moment…
[00:24:30] Trina shares lessons learned from friendships that didn't last, why friendships might not always last, and the importance of communicating clear intentions
[00:26:48] Friendships, feedback, investing, and balance
[00:31:13] Eric and Trina take an intentional moment to reach out to a friend
[00:32:26] Managing emotions when worrying if friends will be upset with you, the importance of repair, and being a people-pleaser
[00:36:36] Personal dumpster fires, healing, and exploring
[00:39:37] The importance of going back to basics and max-capacities
[00:47:16] Phone tools and apps to help with communication
[00:50:23] Frontloading conversations with honesty and vulnerability
[00:51:44] How to get in touch with Trina and closing thoughts

Resources & Honorable Mentions:

Hear Eric on Trina's podcast on the My Lady ADHD Podcast (click here!)
Hear Trina and other panelists on ADHD reWired's Live Q&A from August 8th - Episode 500 (click here!)

🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community!

🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired's award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!