Struggling To Figure Out Who You Are? Dr. Sara Kuburic Can Help
Nov 20, 2023
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Psychotherapist Dr. Sara Kuburic shares her personal experience of self-loss, offering wisdom and practical steps for reconnecting with your true self. They discuss the emptiness of self-loss triggered by major life changes and the ongoing practice of self-discovery through curiosity and playfulness. They explore growing up in challenging times and the impact on perception, anxiety as a sign of freedom, the importance of responsibility and its connection to authenticity, and recognizable consequences of self-loss such as difficulties in relationships and negative body image. They also discuss societal expectations hindering self-discovery and finding identity amidst loss and grief.
The self is fluid and constantly emerging, requiring active evolution and creation of one's authentic identity.
Self loss refers to feeling disconnected from one's sense of identity, often triggered by major life changes or a gradual erosion of self over time.
Taking ownership of one's life and actions is crucial for rediscovering the true self and embracing responsibility, authenticity, and change.
Deep dives
Concept of self is malleable and constantly evolving
The self is not static; it is created and shaped through experiences and interactions. It is fluid and constantly emerging. Failing to evolve and create one's sense of self can lead to a disconnection from one's authentic identity.
Profound self loss and the search for identity
Self loss refers to the experience of feeling disconnected from one's sense of identity. It can be triggered by major life changes or a gradual erosion of self over time. It is often accompanied by a sense of disorientation and a desire to rediscover one's true self.
Importance of taking responsibility for one's self
Self loss requires acknowledging one's responsibility for the creation and preservation of self. It involves recognizing the role of one's actions in shaping identity and consciously making choices that align with one's authentic self. Taking ownership of one's life and actions can lead to a rediscovery of self.
Self-Loss and Responsibility
Self-loss and responsibility are interconnected, with responsibility being the other side of the coin of power and agency. Embracing responsibility puts us in a strong position to affect change. Authenticity is also linked to responsibility, as it involves owning oneself and creating change. Self-loss manifests in various ways, such as difficulty in answering simple questions, struggling with relationships, and negative body image. Developing self-awareness and creating a sense of safety are crucial steps in the journey of self-discovery.
The Benefits of Self-Loss
Experiencing self-loss can offer a sense of freedom and uninhibited exploration. It allows us to question preconceived ideas, beliefs, and values, paving the way for the creation of a flexible and evolving sense of self. Self-loss can be a catalyst for self-discovery, encouraging us to experiment, make mistakes, and continuously align our perception of who we are with our actions. Embracing a playful attitude and embracing the absurdity of life can liberate us in the process of self-creation.
Have you ever felt like you've lost your sense of self? Psychotherapist Sara Kuburic joins me to discuss her experience with profound "self-loss" and the journey back to oneself.
In her insightful new book, It's On Me: Accept Hard Truths, Discover Your Self, and Change Your Life, Sara blends personal stories with psychology and neuroscience to offer wisdom and practical steps for reconnecting with your true self. Born a refugee, Sara brings both personal experience and professional expertise to this vital topic. We explore the emptiness of self-loss, often triggered by major life changes, and how self-discovery is an ongoing practice of curiosity, playfulness and courage to experiment with who you want to be - imperfections and all.