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What To Do When Your Wife Is Triggered (with Tammy Gustafson)

Jan 15, 2024
Trauma-informed Licensed Professional Counselor Tammy Gustafson discusses how husbands can support their wives during triggers and the opportunity for healing they present. Learn about the neurological response to triggers, manifestations of triggers in real-life situations, and practical tips for navigating triggers and strengthening relationships. Discover the importance of empathy, understanding, open communication, and perspective-taking in addressing triggers and building intimacy.
40:16

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  • Triggers are a neurological response to a perceived threat and it's important to validate and support your wife during triggering moments, rather than trying to fix or dismiss her feelings.
  • Creating safety through humility, non-defensiveness, and emotional presence is crucial for healing and recovery after triggers.

Deep dives

Understanding Triggers and Supporting Your Wife Through Them

Triggers are overwhelming and confusing for everyone involved. It's important to recognize that your wife doesn't want to be triggered and she isn't choosing to be triggered. Triggers are a neurological response to a perceived threat and they can bring your wife to her knees. Understanding this can help you provide validation and support during triggering moments, rather than trying to fix or dismiss her feelings. Validate her experiences and be present with her during the trigger, offering empathy and understanding.

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