Neurodiverse Love with Mona Kay

Emotional Communication: How to Get Your Emotional Needs Met in a Relationship-Paul Micallef

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Dec 23, 2025
In a delightful discussion, Paul Micallef, an autistic life coach and creator of 'Autism From The Inside,' shares insights on emotional communication in relationships. He delves into the challenges neurodiverse couples face due to differing emotional styles and offers strategies to bridge communication gaps. Paul emphasizes understanding emotional needs versus logistical asks and encourages clear, specific requests to foster intimacy. He also highlights the importance of celebrating small wins and changing one’s approach to enhance relational dynamics.
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INSIGHT

Emotions Aren't Logistics

  • Emotional communication differs from logistical requests; saying "pick up milk" isn't the same as saying "show me you care."
  • Paul Micallef highlights that identifying the emotional message behind requests clarifies needs and prevents misinterpretation.
ADVICE

Pause And Name Your Core Need

  • Work on yourself first and pause in high emotion to identify the core need before asking your partner.
  • Then communicate that specific emotional need so your partner can respond effectively.
ADVICE

Ask For Reminders That Create Feeling

  • Ask for evidence and reminders that translate into a felt sense of care rather than assuming a single statement suffices.
  • Request specific, repeatable actions that create emotional reminders for you.
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