TPP 326: Educator Sam Young on Reimagining Socializing for Twice-Exceptional Students
Apr 11, 2023
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In this engaging discussion, Sam Young, a neurodivergent educator with ADHD and director of Young Scholars Academy, dives into the evolving social lives of twice-exceptional students. He highlights how technology has reshaped peer connections and offers strategies for parents to support their kids through social challenges. Sam emphasizes the importance of mentorship and nurturing a strengths-based approach to social skills. He also introduces innovative methods to foster confidence and community, all while celebrating the unique strengths of neurodivergent youth.
The pandemic has reshaped socialization for neurodivergent children, necessitating an embrace of online connections over traditional interaction methods.
Effective support for neurodivergent kids in social settings hinges on fostering their strengths through engaging, interest-based activities and environments.
Parents can empower their children by creating nurturing spaces that celebrate their unique abilities, enhancing self-esteem and social confidence.
Deep dives
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Reimagining Children’s Social Lives Post-Pandemic
The pandemic has significantly altered how children, particularly those who are neurodivergent, socialize, making it imperative to rethink traditional expectations. Children are expected to socialize similarly to how their parents did, which may not be realistic in today's tech-driven world. Instead, there is a need to embrace online socializing as a genuine form of connection, where kids can engage with peers through shared interests, even when it happens in virtual settings. Acknowledging this shift helps both parents and children adapt to new social paradigms without holding onto outdated notions.
The Challenges of Neurodivergent Socialization
Neurodivergent children often face unique hurdles in social settings, partly due to heightened social anxieties and a lack of traditional social experiences. Finding effective ways to facilitate their social interactions is crucial, and parents can play a pivotal role in this process. Techniques such as structured social clubs that focus on children’s strengths, rather than their deficits, foster meaningful connections and authentic engagement. Encouraging children to explore interest-based activities can provide them with opportunities to meet like-minded peers and practice social skills in a comfortable environment.
Strengths-Based Approaches to Social Skills Development
Focusing on strengths rather than deficits is essential for fostering positive social experiences in neurodivergent youth. Instead of conventional social skills groups that present a 'fix it' mentality, providing environments where children can thrive, explore their interests, and connect with peers is more effective. Integrating creative and engaging activities, such as improv or Dungeons and Dragons, allows children to practice social skills in a stimulating context without the pressure of traditional metrics. This approach not only builds confidence but also nurtures their natural talents and social abilities in a way that feels enjoyable.
Supporting Children’s Social Development
Parents should aim to create nurturing environments that highlight their children's unique strengths as a way to support their social growth. Providing opportunities for involvement in activities where children feel valued and competent can enhance their self-esteem and social confidence. Regular reflection on personal achievements, no matter how small, can empower children by reinforcing their sense of worth and capability. Furthermore, fostering open conversations about both victories and challenges in social contexts cultivates a balanced perspective and helps children navigate their social environments more effectively.
The world has changed so very much in the past few years, including in no small way how our kids relate to other kids. I get a pang of nostalgia when I think about how I used to form friendships when I was younger in a more analog world, but I can also feel excitement about the many possibilities that have opened up for kids like ours to find their communities thanks to the technology they’re growing up with.
In this episode, Sam Young is going to talk with us about what a meaningful and healthy social life might look like for our differently wired kids, and how we can support them in the process. We explored how online communities have impacted socializing for neurodivergent kids, how parents can support kids in developing the skills to help with social anxiety, key elements to look for in ideal social environments for our differently-wired kiddos, and much more.
Sam Young MEd is a growth-minded, two-time Fulbright Scholar and Director of Young Scholars Academy, a strength-based, talent-focused virtual enrichment center that supports twice-exceptional, neurodivergent, and gifted students and their families. Sam is a neurodivergent educator who has ADHD. As an ADHD learner, he has a tremendous understanding of, experience in, and respect for all things related to neurodiverse education. Before founding Young Scholars Academy, Sam taught in a variety of capacities—including nearly a decade at Bridges Academy—at an array of programs in the US, Europe, and Asia.
Things you'll learn from this episode
What reimagining our kids’ social life really is about
How online communities have impacted our kid’s social lives
What Sam’s students wish their social lives looked like
How parents or adults in kids' lives can support them in building skills to help them with social anxiety
Sam’s thoughts on social skill groups and their efficacy
Expectations that parents have that might be getting in the way of their kid’s social lives
How parents can support a kid who is feeling alone to the point of their self-confidence and self-worth being affected