Sadia Khan, a relationship psychologist, and Matthew Hussey, a bestselling author on dating, share their insights on the complexities of modern relationships. They discuss why relationships often fail, particularly in the age of social media, and stress the importance of emotional regulation. The duo emphasizes recognizing toxic patterns and the need for gratitude in relationships. They also delve into navigating deal breakers and the emotional toll of letting go, making this conversation invaluable for anyone looking to enhance their romantic connections.
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Ingratitude and Relationship Failure
Ingratitude, fueled by social media comparisons and endless alternatives, harms relationships.
This leads to perceiving partners as hindrances, not contributors to life goals.
insights INSIGHT
Dopamine Addiction vs. Relationship Presence
Constant dopamine hits from phones and social media hinder presence and appreciation in relationships.
This makes it hard to settle in and truly get to know someone, even in long-term relationships.
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Focusing on the Positives
To combat relationship negativity, write down all the complaints you don't have because of your partner.
This helps you connect with the positive aspects they bring, which are easily forgotten.
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In 'Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love', John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman provide a step-by-step guide to help couples navigate the challenges of long-term commitment. Drawing from their extensive research at the Love Lab, the authors outline eight essential conversations that couples should have to build a strong and lasting relationship. Each date is designed to address a different critical topic, including trust, conflict, intimacy, finances, family, adventure, spirituality, and dreams. The book includes exercises, open-ended discussion questions, and suggestions for where to have these dates, aiming to foster deeper understanding, empathy, and connection between partners.
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In 'Love Life,' Matthew Hussey provides a roadmap for overcoming past relationships, fears, and internal anxieties that lead to self-sabotage. The book focuses on adopting new standards, elegant communication, and deepening confidence. It is not just about romantic relationships but also about taking control of relationships with oneself and life itself. Hussey shares his personal experiences and vulnerabilities, making the book a comprehensive guide for anyone seeking to improve their love life and overall well-being.
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In this powerful episode of the School of Greatness, I sit down with relationship experts Sadia Khan and Matthew Hussey to explore the complex dynamics of modern relationships. We dive deep into why relationships fail and how to navigate breakups when necessary. Sadia, known for her work with men, and Matthew, a New York Times bestselling author who primarily coaches women, offer unique perspectives on the challenges couples face today. From the impact of social media on gratitude to the importance of emotional regulation, this conversation is packed with invaluable insights for anyone looking to improve their relationships or understand the intricacies of human connection in the digital age.
In this episode you will learn
The top reasons relationships fail in the age of social media and constant comparison
How to cultivate gratitude and appreciation for your partner amidst external distractions
Strategies for improving conflict resolution and emotional regulation in relationships
The dangers of selecting partners who enable emotional dysregulation
Why giving your partner the same grace you extend to others is crucial for relationship success
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