The Stoic’s Playbook For INSTANT Charisma | Vanessa Van Edwards (PT. 2)

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May 31, 2025

Vanessa Van Edwards, bestselling author and body language expert, dives into the secrets of instant charisma. She explains how charisma begins with energy and presence, before you even speak. Learn to navigate social dynamics, master the art of saying no, and the importance of authenticity in communication. Vanessa also discusses historical examples of pivotal conversations that sparked change, plus the significance of personal boundaries in forging genuine connections. With practical tips, she equips listeners to engage confidently in any social setting.

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INSIGHT

Stoics and Charisma Connection

Charisma is essential to Stoicism's lasting influence and effectiveness.
Stoics combined warmth with principled communication to engage and lead effectively.

ADVICE

Juice Oxytocin Before Speaking

To energize before a talk, socialize briefly to stimulate oxytocin.
Pretend to have a casual coffee chat with the audience for authentic stage presence.

ANECDOTE

Backstage Energy at NFL Meeting

Ryan Holiday shared his experience at an intimidating NFL owners meeting.
Pacing backstage and avoiding sitting in the audience helped him find the right energy to perform.

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