Tom Bilyeu's Mindset Playbook

Vanessa Van Edwards: How to Liberate Yourself from Social Anxiety

Nov 24, 2025
Vanessa Van Edwards, a body language expert and founder of the Science of People, reveals her journey from social awkwardness to decoding human behavior. She shares insights on radical honesty, emphasizing how it can transform relationships. Vanessa also discusses the surprising ways emotions can be detected, even by scent! Unraveling the complexities of neuroticism, she offers strategies for self-soothing and understanding toxic relationships. Get ready for practical tips to enhance your social skills and emotional intelligence!
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INSIGHT

People Have A Decodable Matrix

  • Everyone has a personal 'matrix' — a predictable set of values and wiring you can decode.
  • Solve people's motivations by learning their personality layers, then speak to what matters to them.
INSIGHT

Use OCEAN To Read People Fast

  • The Big Five (OCEAN) gives the fastest accuracy for understanding strangers.
  • Openness, Conscientiousness, Extraversion, Agreeableness, and Neuroticism predict how people behave and worry.
ADVICE

Use External Reminders To Self-Soothe

  • If you're high in neuroticism, add external calming reminders because your serotonin response is slower.
  • Put motivational cues where you'll see them to help self-soothe during extended arousal.
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