Tom Bilyeu's Mindset Playbook

What does it mean to be masculine? In his fascinating new book, best-selling author, speaker, and high-performance coach Lewis Howes asks this very question. Whether it’s the jock, the playboy, or the fighter, Lewis breaks down the different masks that men unknowingly wear to hide their authentic selves. Watch “The School of Greatness” host discuss masculinity, vulnerability, and authenticity in this eye-opening episode of Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu. Buy the Mask of Masculinity Here: http://amzn.to/2yZ5sfT Original air date: 10-31-17 SHOW NOTES Tom and Lewis talk about masculine vulnerability and how a fight changed his life. [5:05] Lewis shares when he discovered that he was wearing masks and how he learned to forgive. [11:26] Lewis breaks down different types of masks and overcoming the fear of being perfect. [13:27] Lewis talks about using masks to our advantage and knowing when it’s time to take it off. [17:07] Tom and Lewis deconstruct the process that draws a line between masks and authenticity. [19:20] Lewis reveals the question he used to start every conversation and what waits on the other side. [21:53] Lewis describes practical steps that you can usedto identify and remove masks in your life. [26:13] Tom and Lewis dive into the comfort of wearing masks and how they are created. [29:36] Lewis gives society’s definition of a “real man” and being educated by powerful women. [34:13] Lewis offers his definition of real masculinity and the basis of self-love. [37:56] Lewis explains how he ranks priorities in his life. [40:05] Lewis clarifies why he tailored a section for women in his book about masculinity. [43:25] Tom and Lewis discuss connectivity at every level and creating meaningful conversation and change. [45:51] Lewis reveals the three truths that are essential to creating your best life. [49:00] Lewis defines the impact that he wants to have on the world. [51:18] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tom and Cindy tackle community questions, exploring how to instill a growth mindset in teens with relatable stories. They discuss the art of comparison, advising listeners to embrace it sparingly for inspiration. Entrepreneurs receive insights on driving traffic to their websites through content and problem-solving strategies. Tom identifies a shared trait among successful guests: a growth mindset. He also shares techniques to deflect negative energy and ways to merge passion with business skills for greater impact.

Gary Vaynerchuk, a four-time New York Times bestselling author and founder of VaynerMedia, shares his journey from a struggling immigrant to a successful entrepreneur. He discusses the importance of optimism, work ethic, and taking radical ownership of one’s choices. Gary stresses that trends can be spotted through listening and observational methods, while parenting values like kindness and perspective shape future generations. He emphasizes the power of creating an empathetic company culture, demonstrating that kindness and success can coexist.

In a lively Q&A, Tom shares insights on blending philanthropy with business success, arguing they can coexist for a greater impact. He tackles the challenge of balancing two competing ideas to refine decision-making. Personal anecdotes reveal his passions beyond work, like reading and binge-watching movies. Tom also addresses common pitfalls, such as repeating mistakes, urging listeners to view them as identity gaps. Learn about sustainable value creation, the myth of passive income, and the importance of intentional downtime to prevent burnout.

Dr. Drew Pinsky, a double board-certified physician and addiction expert, dives into the fascinating connection between the mind and body. He shares insights on why disgust can be a powerful motivator for change, particularly in recovery and personal development. Dr. Drew also explores the impact of community and myth on self-construction and happiness, discussing how our relationships shape our identities. Plus, expect an unexpected operatic performance that highlights his passion for music and connection.

Tom Bilyeu dives into the importance of mentors, naming Elon Musk as an inspiration. He shares his techniques for winding down at night and discusses building community as a key phase in growth. The conversation also covers how philanthropic leaders can break through media noise. Tom explores the factors that contributed to the virality of Mel Robbins' episode and emphasizes the role of fitness in mental clarity. Finally, he reveals his gradual approach to creating a morning routine that sets the tone for his day.

Jarrett Adams, wrongfully convicted at 17, is now an attorney and co-founder of Life After Justice. He shares the painful isolation of prison and how it fueled his drive for justice. Discussing his evolution, Jarrett reveals the impact of therapy and introspective conversations with his mother. He highlights intense letter writing that connected him to legal aid and emphasizes education as a catalyst for systemic change. Jarrett's journey underscores the importance of resilience, advocacy, and leaving a better legacy for future generations.

Tom shares insights on managing self-doubt and the importance of breathing techniques during pressure. He highlights the significance of taking bold actions aligned with your identity to overcome fear. The discussion critiques the law of attraction, stressing the need for action and responsibility. He provides a glimpse into his morning routine, which includes gym sessions and meditation. Tom emphasizes the value of focusing on the present and community collaboration to foster growth.

Chase Jarvis, an award-winning photographer and founder of CreativeLive, shares insights on creativity and the dangers of playing it safe in today's economy. He recounts a life-changing near-death experience that shifted his priorities towards meaningful impact. Discussing the power of narrative and intuition, he emphasizes self-reflection and mindfulness as keys to success. Chase advocates for embracing creativity and continuous learning, arguing that safety is now the riskiest choice, urging listeners to pursue their passions boldly.

Leila Janah, a social entrepreneur and founder of SamaSource and LXMI, transformed her early struggles into a powerful mission. She shares her journey of grit, revealing how cleaning toilets and tutoring paved her way to Harvard and ultimately led her to employ thousands. Leila discusses resilience, the importance of compassion, and practical strategies for staying grounded amidst challenges. Her insights on combining social impact with business show how imperfect people can still drive meaningful change. Discover her vision to shift corporate procurement toward social enterprises.