The Terri Cole Show 731 Recovery for the Codependent Perfectionist with Alana Carvalho
Jun 26, 2025
In this engaging conversation, Alana Carvalho, a licensed mental health counselor and creator of The Codependent Perfectionist brand, tackles the intertwined issues of codependency and perfectionism. She shares her personal recovery journey and insights on how these traits often sabotage authentic connections. Alana emphasizes the importance of honest communication, setting achievable goals, and fostering healthy boundaries. Listeners will benefit from her advice on navigating parenting challenges and redefining productivity through taking breaks and celebrating small wins.
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Alana's Origin Story
- Alana realized her codependency and perfectionism intertwined as she sought approval through perfection to gain love and acceptance.
- She discovered sadness and anger beneath her behaviors, which challenged her relationships when she began to change.
Codependency Breeds Loneliness
- Codependents often act to make others happy, but as a result, they feel deep loneliness due to lack of true intimacy.
- Authentic acceptance requires showing who we really are, not what others expect.
Perfectionism Hinders Authentic Living
- Perfectionism and codependency often prevent authentic living and joy by focusing on external approval.
- Alana's shift to learning for joy instead of grades transformed her experience.
