Devon and Craig Hase, seasoned dharma practitioners and authors, explore the intriguing relationship between mindfulness, meditation, and sexuality. They share insights from their year-long celibacy journey, discussing how it transformed their approach to intimacy. The couple highlights the often-overlooked discussions of sex in Buddhism and offers practical advice for enhancing connection in relationships. With humor and honesty, they encourage breaking free from conventional sexual scripts, aiming for deeper, more authentic experiences.
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Why Buddhists Rarely Discuss Sex
Buddhists openly discuss bodily functions, but rarely sex, reflecting a broader societal discomfort.
This reticence may also stem from Buddhism's monastic roots and the celibacy of many early teachers.
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Experimenting with Tantra
Devon and Craig Hase experimented with tantric sex practices from the Vajrayana/Tibetan Buddhist tradition.
These practices are technical, involving subtle body work, and require a strong meditation foundation.
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Improving Intimacy
To improve sex, unplug from devices, slow down with non-sexual touch, and reconnect with your body.
This allows for authentic connection and de-centers intercourse as the sole focus of sex.
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Buddhists don’t tend to shy away from talking about body parts -- but usually it’s more along the lines of meditating on things like spittle, defecation (otherwise known as poop) and the inevitable decay of the body. So where do sex and sexuality fit into this mix? Bottom line: how can we use sex to wake up? In this episode, I talk with dharma practitioners Devon and Craig Hase. They’re not sexperts by any stretch, but as a married couple who recently emerged from a year of monastic vows (which included celibacy), they’ve spent a lot of time exploring the intersection of mindfulness, meditation and sex. In fact, their new book How Not to Be a Hot Mess includes a whole chapter called, “Make Sex Good.” We start with a fascinating discussion about their own experimentation with esoteric, Tantric sex practices, but then veer directly into garden variety sex issues. It’s a fascinating chat, and I appreciate Devon and Craig being so open and honest on an intensely personal issue. Where to find Devon & Craig Hase online: Website: http://devonandcraighase.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/devonandcraighase Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/devonandcraig/ Book: How Not to Be a Hot Mess by Craig & Devon Hase: https://www.indiebound.org/book/9781611807981 There's still time to join and complete the Summer Sanity Challenge: a free 21 day meditation challenge. The goal here is to help you build resilience so that you are less buffeted by circumstances you can’t control -- and are therefore calmer, happier, and better prepared to show up the way you want to for your family and your communities. To join the challenge, you can visit tenpercent.com/challenge. Other Resources Mentioned: Mentoring page: http://devonandcraighase.com/mentoring Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century by Barbara Carrellas: https://www.indiebound.org/book/9781587612909 Additional Resources: Ten Percent Happier Live: https://tenpercent.com/live Coronavirus Sanity Guide: https://www.tenpercent.com/coronavirussanityguide Free App access for Frontline Workers: https://tenpercent.com/care Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/devon-craig-hase-269
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