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How to Drop Happily Ever After and Do Relationships Better – John Kim, LMFT : 973

Sep 2, 2022

In this engaging conversation, John Kim, a licensed marriage and family therapist known as "The Angry Therapist," shares his candid insights on navigating relationships. He emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and breaking the blame cycle to foster healthier connections. Kim discusses letting go of unrealistic expectations about love and highlights the significance of emotional responsibility. With humor and raw honesty, he encourages listeners to embrace personal growth, effective communication, and realistic views on intimacy for sustainable partnerships.

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ANECDOTE

John Kim's Unconventional Approach

John Kim got a tattoo and a Harley after his divorce.
He used unconventional therapy methods like meeting clients at coffee shops or CrossFit boxes.

INSIGHT

Breaking the Blame Cycle

The blame cycle in relationships involves blaming each other for problems.
Breaking this cycle requires self-awareness and taking responsibility for your actions.

ADVICE

Therapy vs. Coaching

Therapists help clients move from suffering to baseline.
Coaches help clients move from baseline to thriving.

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IN THIS EPISODE OF THE HUMAN UPGRADE™...

… you’ll learn how to recognize your own sh*t and be a better partner in relationships.

Want a sustainable partnership? Communicate and apologize; fight without fighting; identify codependent behavior (your own); and manage jealousy (also your own).

This conversation gets into how you can let go of unrealistic ideals of how you think love and relationships should be and live fully in the present. You’ll also get tips on how to be emotionally responsible to people you love every day.

Guest John Kim, a licensed marriage and family therapist, as well as a life coach, cracks his life into two big pieces… split on either side of what he calls “the great divide” of his own divorce several years ago. He did the whole “get a tattoo and a Harley” thing to find his way.

He also combined what he learned in therapy school with life coaching and technology to be mobile and create online communities. He became known as an unconventional therapist, seeing clients at coffee shops, on hikes, or in a CrossFit box. He’s built a devoted following of fans who love the frank and authentic insights that he—as “The Angry Therapist”—freely shares on social media. TikTok’s his jam, with over 450K people tuning in for his “shot glass” bits of life wisdom.

In his newest book, written with his romantic partner and fellow therapist Vanessa Bennett, John takes a different (honest, humorous, raw) approach by dissecting his own relationship dynamic to bring clarity to yours. Each part of “IT’S NOT ME, IT’S YOU: Break the Blame Cycle, Relationship Better” gives you questions to ask yourself and practices to do. It’s a book that pushes you into doing and putting your newfound knowledge to IRL use.

Here’s a sneak peek at a few of the Love Lessons (In a Shot Glass) you’ll find in “It’s Not Me, It’s You.”

Love is not a battlefield. Your head is.
If someone is unsure about you, it’s never worth the investment.
Hold love, don’t grab it.
Don’t stop believing (be Journey).
Love is what teaches us how to live.

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