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2245: How To Make a Fight With Your Partner Into a Positive Learning Experience for Your Child by Dr. Laura Markham

Jul 18, 2024

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Dr. Laura Markham discusses modeling healthy conflict resolution for children, emphasizing respectful disagreements and affectionate reconciliation. By handling conflicts with respect and seeking solutions, children learn constructive coping skills. The importance of showing resolution and repair to help children understand and manage conflicts constructively is highlighted.

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Modeling healthy conflict resolution can teach children valuable lessons.

Resolving conflicts with respect and goodwill is crucial for children's emotional well-being.

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Impact of Parental Conflict on Children

Children are adversely affected by parental conflict, even if disagreements are non-yelling. Research by Mark Cummings has shown that children struggle with witnessing conflicts, necessitating affectionate resolution post-conflict. Models of constructive conflict resolutions, correcting missteps promptly, and engaging in respectful discussions are deemed beneficial for children.

The Impact of Parental Communication & Empathy on Generational Trauma

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Parenting Tips: Turning Fights with Your Partner into Positive Lessons for Your Child

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Episode 2245:

Dr. Laura Markham highlights the importance of modeling healthy conflict resolution for children, emphasizing that respectful disagreements followed by affectionate reconciliation can teach valuable lessons. Even non-yelling conflicts can be upsetting to children, but showing resolution and repair helps them understand and cope with conflicts constructively.

Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.peacefulparenthappykids.com/read/fight-with-partner-learning-modeling-for-child

Quotes to ponder:

"It's never appropriate to dump anger on another person, in front of your kids or not."

"If we handle our disagreements with respect and good will, looking for solutions instead of blame, children will recover."

"Anyone can get angry, but we can take responsibility for our own emotions, apologize, and re-connect."

Episode references:

Nurture Shock: https://www.amazon.com/NurtureShock-New-Thinking-About-Children/dp/0446504122

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