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Earn Your Happy

How to Know if You’re a High Functioning Codependent and What You Can Do About It with Psychotherapist Terri Cole

Jan 15, 2025
01:09:18

Are you constantly taking responsibility for other people’s feelings, problems, or successes? You might be a high-functioning codependent. In this episode, psychotherapist Terri Cole is back sharing the sneaky pattern of overgiving and over-functioning that leads to burnout, resentment, and even sabotage your relationships and career. She breaks down how to recognize these behaviors and start your recovery. We talk about how to set boundaries, stop controlling outcomes, and prioritize self-care in a way that feels empowering. Get ready to stop fixing everyone else and start prioritizing yourself. 


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HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 What does high-functioning codependency (HFC) look like?

06:00 Signs you might be an HFC.

11:30 How auto-advice giving creates resentment in relationships.

17:30 The difference between compromise and self-abandonment in partnerships.

25:00 How to stop trying to control others and reclaim your peace.

31:45 The red flags of taking on too much emotional responsibility.

39:00 Ways to deal with guilt when you feel you “should” do more.

45:00 How to improve your relationships by breaking the over-functioning cycle.

49:00 The FREE toolkit to help you start setting boundaries today!


RESOURCES

Learn more about Terri’s Free HFC Toolkit HERE

Get your copy of Terri’s “Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency” HERE

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Text DAILY to 310-496-8363 for daily manifesting affirmations, journal prompts, and motivation.

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Watch on YouTube - @LoriHarder

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