Healing Honeys (formerly OPENHOUSE with Louise Rumball)

114 - "I miss my ex" / getting back together with an ex

Sep 4, 2023

Therapist Dr. Tari Mack joins Louise Rumball to discuss the complexities of meeting up with an ex. They explore motivations for wanting to meet, reflect on the healing journey, and emphasize the importance of expectations, intentions, and communication. They also delve into anger expression, closure, and finding connection within oneself. A sneak peek is given into the next episode on meeting up with an ex.

46:36

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Tari Mack

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Quick takeaways

Understanding intentions and motivations is crucial when considering meeting up with an ex, as it can involve seeking validation, closure, reconciliation, or revenge.

Before meeting up with an ex, evaluate your expectations and assess if it will hinder or support your healing process, considering potential disappointment and reopening old wounds.

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Importance of Understanding Intentions when Meeting Up with an Ex

When considering meeting up with an ex, it is crucial to understand your intentions and motivations. One common reason people want to meet with an ex is the hope of reconciling and getting back together. However, it is essential to be honest with yourself and communicate these intentions with the ex if that is the case. Seeking validation and an ego boost is another reason individuals may want to meet up, but this can be disempowering and lead to disappointment. Additionally, some may feel the desire to meet an ex to seek revenge or to show them what they are missing. It is important to recognize that revenge is not a healthy motivation and meeting up with this intention is not in your best interest.

Introduction

3min

Meeting Up with an Ex: Healing and Gratitude

2min

Examining Motivations and Intentions

22min

Expressing Anger Towards an Ex and the Concept of Closure

3min

The Search for Closure and Connection

7min

Changing the Narrative After Heartbreak

3min

#114 - Do NOT text your ex (or text them back) without listening to this episode! Sometimes you just gotta ask a therapist ‘IS THIS A GOOD IDEA?’ and today, Louise & Dr. Tari Mack discuss exactly that. They delve into the complex topic of meeting up with an ex. So, if you’re considering reaching out or responding to an ex's request to meet? This episode is for you.

The pair get into:

When is a good time to meet an ex (if ever)
Analyzing Your Reasons for Wanting to Meet an Ex
Exploring the various motives behind the desire to meet up with an ex, such as seeking validation, closure, reconciliation, or even revenge
Time Frame Consideration: discussing the time since your last contact or breakup
Reflecting on whether meeting will help or hurt your healing journey.
The importance of expectation, intention and communication

The pair also ask - what are your truthful expectations out of meeting up with your Ex? Louise shares her own personal journey and story of recently re-connecting with her ex of 2.5 years ago and contributes her real life, lived experience, to this juicy, juicy discussion.

Real talk, honest conversations, and stories that make you think—welcome to The Healing Honeys. Hit play and let’s get into it.

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