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Moment 155: The "Post Date 8" Questions You Need To Ask To Find 'The One' - Logan Ury

Mar 29, 2024

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Behavioural expert and dating coach, Logan Ury, discusses the importance of dating like a scientist, focusing on fundamental qualities rather than a rigid checklist. She shares 8 post-date questions to help assess long-term compatibility, emphasizing self-reflection and authenticity in relationships.

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Focus on essential elements for long-term happiness in a partner, not just physical traits.

Approach dating with an open mind, like a scientist, to discover genuine compatibility beyond initial expectations.

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Key Point 1: The Evolution of Partner Preferences

As individuals mature, their criteria for an ideal partner shifts from superficial traits like physical appearance to essential elements for long-term happiness. The speaker emphasizes that focusing on sexual and intellectual connections, alongside mutual personal growth, is more crucial than mere physical attributes. Moving away from superficial 'relation shopping' towards deeper 'relation shipping' aids in finding genuine long-term compatibility.

Choosing the Slow Burn Over the Spark in Dating

01:48

Introduction

5min

Navigating Relationships with Post-Date Eight Questions

3min

Exploring Misconceptions About Long-Term Relationship Success

3min

In this moment, behavioural expert and dating coach, Logan Ury discusses the 3 fundamental things to look for in a partner. Too often people have a rigid list of exact traits that they want in their future partner in relationship science this is called, ‘relationship shopping’. This is the idea of shopping for your partner like you would do with any product online. However, more often than not, people end up in a long term relationship with someone who has none of these traits. The reason for this is that while people may think they know what they want, they are wrong. Instead, Logan says you need to date like a scientist, experimenting and constantly changing your hypothesis of what you want in a partner. This can be achieved by using Logan’s 8 questions to ask yourself after a date, the focus of this is examining who are you around that person, and what side of you do they bring out, as this is who you will be for the rest of the relationship.

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