High Achieving Mental Frameworks For Growth With High Performance Psychologist Dr. Josh Spitalnick
Apr 9, 2024
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High-performance psychologist Dr. Josh Spitalnick discusses mental fitness and high-achieving frameworks for growth. Topics include overcoming negative narratives, living with fear intentionally, shifting mindset to 'and vs. or', navigating relationship-building authentically, handling negative thoughts, and avoiding toxic 'should' mentality. The conversation focuses on making your world bigger and winning more in business development.
Focus on observable actions over internal thoughts to prevent self-judgment.
Learn to postpone solving insolvable problems to maintain focus and prevent stress.
Embrace meta-level thinking for strategic decision-making in business and personal interactions.
Prioritize understanding deeper issues and relationships rather than surface symptoms for genuine solutions.
Deep dives
Understanding Thoughts and Actions
Successful individuals need to consider whether they judge themselves based on their internal thoughts or their external actions. Dr. Josh highlights the importance of focusing on observable actions rather than internal thoughts to prevent self-judgment based on fleeting or negative thoughts. By prioritizing actions and attending to automatic thoughts, individuals can leverage their cognitive abilities more effectively.
Fixation on Problem-Solving
Dr. Josh emphasizes the difference between productive and unproductive fixations, using the example of solving insolvable problems. For high performers like Mo, fixating on problems that may not have immediate solutions can lead to distraction and unnecessary stress. Learning to postpone the need to solve every issue immediately can help maintain focus and prevent getting overwhelmed by fixations that do not contribute positively to the situation.
Managing Glitches and Adapting
The podcast episode showcases a real-life example of managing unexpected challenges and glitches, demonstrating the importance of adapting and continuing despite setbacks. Mo's response to technological issues during the episode highlights resilience and the ability to navigate through unexpected situations without allowing them to derail the conversation or the learning process. It serves as a practical illustration of handling moments of struggle effectively.
Need for Meta-Level Thinking
Dr. Josh stresses the significance of meta-level thinking, where individuals rise above immediate reactions and consider patterns, trends, and themes in their actions and thoughts. This higher-level perspective allows for a more strategic approach in business and personal interactions, enabling individuals to analyze multiple factors simultaneously and make informed decisions based on broader insights rather than reactive impulses.
Applying Observational Skills
By cultivating observational skills and the ability to discern between content and trends, individuals can gain a deeper understanding of their thought processes and behaviors. This approach empowers them to assess situations more comprehensively, identify recurring patterns or reactions, and make proactive decisions in various contexts, ultimately enhancing their adaptability and problem-solving capabilities.
Understanding the Importance of Observing Interactions and Systems
The podcast delves into the significance of observing interactions and systems in various contexts, highlighting the difference between wanting to solve a problem and understanding the true needs of individuals. By sharing anecdotes about working through scenarios in a high-stakes HR transformation project, the speaker emphasizes the importance of focusing on deeper issues rather than just treating surface symptoms. This approach underlines the value of prioritizing relationships and system improvements to foster genuine solutions and collaborative outcomes.
Implementing Techniques for Effective Communication and Thought Management
The episode discusses practical techniques for improving communication and managing negative thoughts in challenging situations. Advocating for using phrases like 'I'm aware of' or 'I'm having the thought that' to create distance from negative beliefs, the speaker emphasizes the power of observation over judgment. Additionally, the importance of understanding one's value in interactions and using win-win propositions to address concerns constructively is highlighted, promoting active listening, diffusion of toxic language, and focus on concepts over content for successful exchanges.
In this episode of Real Relationships Real Revenue, I sat down with Dr. Josh Spitalnick who is a high-performance psychologist and author of The Complete Guide to Overcoming Health Anxiety for a one-of-a-kind episode. He is here to talk about improving your mental fitness and share some high-achieving mental frameworks we can use for growth. He’s diving into what high-performing people do to achieve, what they do that gets in their way, and how they switch from running away from something to going towards exactly what they want.
Topics We Cover in This Episode:
The negative narratives we have that keep us in a small space
The mindset of living with fear and approaching things that are scary with intentionality
What you have to remember about the “and vs. or” mentality
How the “worst” can actually be a great opportunity to deepen a relationship
The top things that get in the way of high-performers
The different layers of thoughts that we all have
How we can change the way we react to the things that happen to us to win more
The true win of relationship-building
How to authentically handle focusing on concepts not content
What to do with the negative thoughts that pop up
Why the word “should” is so toxic
I hope you enjoyed this conversation with Dr. Josh! It’s all about making your world bigger, not smaller. Or when it comes to business development, it’s about making your book of business and your relationships bigger, not smaller with these mental frameworks.