Not lazy, but exhausted from analysis paralysis (Emily’s story)
Feb 20, 2024
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ADHD coach Emily Weinberg discusses her struggle with analysis paralysis before being diagnosed with ADHD. She reflects on feeling lazy, mentally exhausted, balancing guilt and relaxation during post-childbirth pumping sessions, embracing her ADHD diagnosis despite not fitting the stereotype, and transitioning to become an ADHD coach to empower others.
Analysis paralysis is common in ADHD, leading to mental exhaustion and difficulty in decision-making.
Misconceptions about ADHD can prevent proper diagnosis, emphasizing the importance of self-understanding and support.
Deep dives
The Experience of Analysis Paralysis
The podcast episode explores the concept of analysis paralysis, where individuals feel stuck and unable to make decisions or take action. The speaker shares their personal experience of feeling trapped in analysis paralysis on a daily basis, constantly screaming at themselves to get up and do something. The speaker highlights the mental exhaustion and frustration that comes with this inability to move forward and make choices. They also discuss the misconception of appearing lazy or unmotivated to others, when in reality, analysis paralysis is a common experience for individuals with ADHD.
The Exhaustion of ADHD
The episode delves into the mental and physical exhaustion that often accompanies ADHD. The speaker describes the constant racing thoughts and the toll it takes on their energy levels. They emphasize the challenge of decision-making and the overwhelming nature of starting and finishing tasks. The speaker shares their struggle with analysis paralysis, where even the simplest choices, like what to have for dinner or which show to watch, can feel overwhelming and mentally draining. Additionally, the speaker addresses the guilt and shame that often accompany these moments of exhaustion and the pressure to always be productive.
Discovering ADHD and Becoming an ADHD Coach
The episode follows the speaker's journey of self-discovery and acceptance of their ADHD. They discuss how their initial perception of laziness and lack of drive was transformed after learning about executive functioning and how it pertains to ADHD. The speaker explains the pivotal moment when they came across a graphic that perfectly depicted their experience of analysis paralysis. The validation and understanding they gained from this discovery inspired them to pursue a career as an ADHD coach. They highlight the importance of helping others understand themselves better and finding strategies to navigate life with ADHD.
ADHD coach Emily Weinberg is no stranger to analysis paralysis. Before she was diagnosed, she thought she was just lazy, and that she couldn’t have ADHD since she wasn’t hyperactive. But whenever she was being “unproductive,” she was actually just frozen. She was stuck thinking about the list of things to do mounting in her head.
When she first spoke to a psychiatrist about ADHD, Emily was told that “she just seemed like an anxious mom with young kids.” So her ADHD was missed, which happens for so many women. Since then, Emily has worked hard to understand herself better, and now she empowers others to do the same.
Understood is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give
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