ADHD Aha!

Sari Solden is a psychotherapist, author, and a true trailblazer for women with ADHD. In this episode, she talks about discovering her own ADHD while helping shape the growing field of adult ADHD in the 1990s. She shares openly about her struggles with shame, working memory, and the pressure of trying to meet society’s expectations of what a woman “should” be. She also reflects on lessons learned from the many women she has worked with over the years.Sari takes us behind the scenes of her early meetings with other ADHD experts at a time when adult ADHD was just starting to be recognized. She’s the author of several books, including “Women with Attention Deficit Disorder,” which celebrates its 30th anniversary this year. Through her pioneering work, Sari gave voice to countless women whose struggles were long misunderstood or overlooked.Related resourcesHear Sari on “Climbing the Walls,” our podcast about the rise of ADHD diagnoses in womenA deeper dive on ADHD and shameWhat is working memory?For a transcript and more resources, visit the ADHD Aha! show page on Understood.org. We love hearing from our listeners! Email us at adhdaha@understood.org or record a message for us here.  Explore Through My Eyes today. Step into the world of three kids with ADHD, dyslexia, and dyscalculia — helping you see differently so you can act differently.Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give

Erica Shoemate, a maternal health strategist and advocate, shares her powerful story of navigating motherhood after a traumatic birth. She reveals how her experiences led to a late ADHD diagnosis and highlights the layered mental health stigma that exists within the Black community. Erica discusses the intersection of ADHD and hormonal changes, reflecting on her challenges with postpartum anxiety and PTSD. Her journey underscores the importance of mental health advocacy and support, encouraging open conversations about these issues.

It’s one thing to wonder if you have ADHD. It’s another to read how your loved ones see it in you. Host Laura Key talks with writer, director, and performer Kate Hammer, who was born in Canada and now lives in Scotland. Kate shares her experience navigating the U.K.’s ADHD evaluation process, which includes personal letters from family and friends, and the complex emotions it brought up. She also discusses her short film, Bear, a surreal, funny, and poignant look at how ADHD can shadow your every move. In the film, a woman on her way to a job interview is followed by a bumbling bear — clumsy, loud, and impossible to ignore. The Bear represents ADHD in all its disruptive, intrusive glory. Kate talks about why she chose to visualize ADHD this way, how humor helps her process, and what it means to turn something invisible into something you can’t ignore.Related resourcesKate’s short film Bear trailerKate’s full short film Bear (Password: BossJude)Timestamps(00:00) Intro(01:03) The UK ADHD evaluation process(07:26) What ADHD traits cause Kate shame and guilt? (08:44) Kate’s short film Bear(16:58) Validating the challenges of ADHD through her short film(21:27) Kate’s ADHD aha! moment(s)(23:05) Outro and creditsWe love hearing from our listeners! Email us at adhdaha@understood.org or record a message for us here.  Explore Through My Eyes today. Step into the world of three kids with ADHD, dyslexia, and dyscalculia — helping you see differently so you can act differently.Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give

John Michael Hinton, a magician and speaker diagnosed with ADHD as a teenager, shares his journey from struggling academically to embracing his vibrant creativity. He reveals how caffeine helped identify his ADHD, and a mentor encouraged him to shift from ‘Ready, FIRE, Aim’ to ‘Ready, AIM, Fire.’ John performs mesmerizing magic tricks and discusses how ADHD fuels his unique performance style, all while navigating life as a husband and father in an ADHD family. His insights inspire others to embrace their quirks and find strength in their uniqueness.

Jiyoung An, a UX designer diagnosed with ADHD this year, reflects on her transformative journey from self-doubt and stigma to self-acceptance. She discusses the frustration of navigating hustle culture and perfectionism while realizing her brain is simply different, not broken. Jiyoung candidly shares insights from her past, including the challenges of growing up undiagnosed and recognizing ADHD traits in her sister. Her story emphasizes the importance of self-compassion and the power of understanding in living with ADHD.

Marc Almodovar, a social media influencer and founder of the Men's ADHD Support Group, shares his journey with ADHD after being diagnosed at 16. He discusses the emotional challenges men face due to societal pressure to mask their feelings. Marc highlights the importance of redefining masculinity and creating safe spaces for honest conversations about mental health. He also emphasizes transformative self-talk strategies and the power of community in overcoming stigma around ADHD, encouraging men to embrace their emotions without shame.

Laura Mears-Reynolds had reached a breaking point with anxiety and depression—until she realized something deeper was going on. She didn’t feel safe in her own hands, and she knew she needed help. What she didn’t know? ADHD was at the root of it all.The UK-based host of the ADHD AF podcast joins ADHD Aha! to share how understanding her brain finally helped her shed shame, find self-acceptance, and build a thriving community. Her message is clear: You’re not broken—and you’re definitely not alone.Related resourcesAmerican Foundation for Suicide PreventionLaura’s podcast and community website, adhdasfemales.comADHD and depressionADHD and anxietyTimestamps(02:37) The most ADHD thing that’s happened this week(03:29) Laura’s ADHD diagnosis story, and crisis point(07:20) Identifying as naive and overly trusting(10:18) Laura’s ADHD “aha” moments(13:02) A constant level of chaos, and assuming (what ended up being) ADHD symptoms were from partying a lot(15:18) The “little” ADHD things that add up and cause shame(17:27) Struggling with the “ADHD superpower” narrative(19:50) How would life have been different with an earlier diagnosis?(21:21) How Laura’s life has changed since her diagnosis, and creating the ADHD AF podcastFor a transcript and more resources, visit the ADHD Aha! show page on Understood.org. We love hearing from our listeners! Email us at adhdaha@understood.org or record a message for us here.  Explore Through My Eyes today. Step into the world of three kids with ADHD, dyslexia, and dyscalculia — helping you see differently so you can act differently.Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give

Nikki Daye, a school psychologist and ADHD advocate, grew up in the foster care system. Diagnosed with ADHD as a child, her medical records were lost, leading to misdiagnoses of anxiety and PTSD. She shares her journey of feeling misunderstood and the clarity she found in adulthood. Nikki discusses her experiences with echolalia, the intersectionality of ADHD, and her passion for advocating for children in similar situations, including her own daughter. Her story highlights the importance of empathy, understanding, and the need for better awareness of ADHD.

In this engaging discussion, Shane Thrapp, Operations Director of the Men’s ADHD Support Group and advocate for neurodiversity, reflects on his journey with ADHD and autism. He delves into the challenges of societal expectations about masculinity and masking one's true self. Shane emphasizes the strength found in authenticity and the importance of community support among men with ADHD. He also sheds light on misconceptions surrounding neurodivergent men and the need for a more inclusive future for their children.

Danielle Elliot was considering breaking up with her partner...and then he broke up with her first. Danielle had a “big, out of character” reaction: By 4am that night she was packed and ready to leave. The whole experience left her feeling unsettled. Why had she reacted that way? That sparked a deep dive into rejection sensitivity and ADHD.Danielle is a health and science journalist who’s now asking a bigger question: Why are so many women being diagnosed with ADHD — and why now?She explores this in Understood.org’s new limited-series podcast, Climbing the Walls. Listen to Danielle’s personal story here — then check out Climbing the Walls on your podcast platform of choice. Related resourcesListen to the Climbing the Walls podcastADHD and rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD)ADHD breakups: Impulsive texts and overthinking regrets, from Sorry, I Missed ThisTimestamps(01:26) Danielle’s pandemic diagnosis after a strong reaction to a break up(08:26) Danielle’s need to travel(12:15) Danielle’s relationship with relationships, and rejection(16:02) Hosting Understood.org’s Climbing the Walls podcastFor a transcript and more resources, visit the ADHD Aha! show page on Understood.org. We love hearing from our listeners! Email us at adhdaha@understood.org, or record a message for us here.  Explore Through My Eyes today. Step into the world of three kids with ADHD, dyslexia, and dyscalculia — helping you see differently so you can act differently.Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give