

Memoir of Madness in a Cult of One - Sarma Melngailis Spills All the Tea on Healing (Part 1)
Business Loss from Manipulation
- Sarma Melngailis recounts losing her thriving raw vegan business after trusting a manipulative partner.
- She was blamed, suffered legal troubles, and endured humiliation but worked to reclaim her story.
No Immunity to Manipulation
- Even experienced survivors remain susceptible to manipulation through different methods.
- Manipulators adapt and find new ways to exploit individual vulnerabilities repeatedly.
Inside the Mind Games of Coercive Control: Sarma Melngailis Reveals How Manipulation Broke Her
Sarma Melngailis shares deep insights into the psychological warfare she endured, including coercive control, gaslighting, and manipulation from her abuser Mr. Fox. She describes how seemingly kind acts were used as traps to build trust and obligation, making it harder for her to set boundaries.
She details specific tactics like relentless pressure, creating doomsday scenarios, and weaponizing her persistence by questioning her commitment to wear her down. Sarma recovered extensive G-chat dialogues with Mr. Fox, highlighting how he repeatedly applied psychological pressure until she finally gave in, such as wiring him large sums of money despite initial resistance.
Her story illustrates the slow erosion of autonomy through calculated manipulation, emphasizing the importance of recognizing transaction-based kindness and the confusion that facilitates control.
This candid revelation offers a raw look at how victims get trapped and coerced, providing valuable lessons on identifying and resisting manipulative relationships.