#288: Quitting Cigarettes, Poly vs Monogamy, Violence Anxiety
Jul 13, 2023
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Topics discussed in this podcast include quitting cigarettes, polyamory, violence anxiety, addiction, finding alternatives to smoking, the influence of cigarette companies, the importance of emergency medical care, guessing top five movies of actors, asking the right questions in therapy, understanding cognitive distortion, and gratitude towards the podcast's supporters.
Polyamorous and monogamous relationships can have similar levels of satisfaction, with societal stigma affecting perceived happiness.
When your therapist holds different views, openly discuss the differences and consider finding a therapist more aligned to your beliefs.
Excessive worries can interfere with everyday life, but cognitive behavioral techniques and therapy can help manage and decrease anxiety for a fulfilling life.
Deep dives
Insights on Relationship Satisfaction in Polyamorous vs Monogamous Relationships
Research studies comparing relationship satisfaction in polyamorous and monogamous relationships have not found any consistent differences. However, it is important to consider that societal stigma and cultural norms may impact the perceived happiness and satisfaction in polyamorous relationships. The key is to focus on what works best for you and your needs, regardless of the relationship style.
Dealing with Differences in Lifestyles with Your Therapist
When your therapist holds a different perspective or lifestyle from yours, it is important to approach the situation with curiosity and an open mind. Discuss the differences openly with your therapist, ask for clarification on their viewpoints, and share your own thoughts and perspectives. If you feel like your therapist's views are influencing their ability to help you, it may be worth considering finding a therapist who aligns more closely with your own beliefs and lifestyle.
The Burden of Worry and Anxiety
The writer, a 21-year-old student, expresses their constant worry and anxiety about various aspects of their life, such as the future, upsetting others, and the fear of being attacked or raped when walking home alone. They describe how their worries often interfere with their ability to enjoy social interactions and experiences. The writer wonders how much worry is normal and when it becomes excessive. They seek advice on how to worry less and ponder whether accepting their worries as a part of life is the right approach.
Understanding and Validating Fear
The summary acknowledges the writer's concerns and emphasizes that their worries are not irrational, but rather reflect real and valid fears. It highlights the importance of recognizing the potential risks and using strategies like risk mitigation to reduce the likelihood of those risks. However, it warns against excessive worry and how it can interfere with daily life and hinder personal growth. Seeking therapy and exploring cognitive behavioral techniques, such as relaxation exercises and mindfulness, are suggested as ways to manage and decrease anxiety.
Taking Control and Living Authentically
The summary encourages the writer to take steps towards living a fulfilling life despite their worries. It suggests that working towards becoming more aware of excessive worry and practicing cognitive behavioral techniques can help gain control over anxiety. It also emphasizes the importance of seeking professional help and considering therapy or medication if necessary. The summary ends with a message of empowerment, encouraging the writer to chase their dreams and not let anxiety limit their potential.
This week's questions are about how to help a loved one quit cigarettes when their health depends on it, what to do when you are poly amorous but your therapist is monogamous, and dealing with an anxiety about sexual violence.
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