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ManTalks Podcast

Sarah Baldwin - Secure Attachment's Possible, It Just Takes Work

Jul 29, 2024
In this engaging discussion, Sarah Baldwin, a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and trauma-trained Life Coach, explores the intricate world of secure attachment and its profound impact on relationships. She delves into how early attachment experiences shape partner choices and emotional responses. Baldwin shares transformative strategies for overcoming anxious and avoidant styles, emphasizing that change is possible. Listeners learn how fostering self-security can lead to deeper intimacy and healthier connections.
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  • A disconfirming experience is crucial for overcoming past fears and creating a sense of safety in relationships and personal growth.
  • Understanding early attachment styles informs adult relationship dynamics, revealing challenges related to anxiety and intimacy that can be addressed.

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Understanding Disconfirming Experiences

A disconfirming experience is essential for showing our nervous system that something previously perceived as unsafe can now be safe. This concept illustrates that while cognitive understanding is important, simply knowing that it’s safe to ask for help does not translate to a regulated body. The autonomic nervous system lacks direct access to verbal language, meaning actions must replace words to create change. By accumulating positive experiences that challenge past fears and labeling them as safe, a person rewrites their internal database, leading to healthier responses in the future.

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