Sarah Baldwin - Secure Attachment's Possible, It Just Takes Work

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Jul 29, 2024

In this engaging discussion, Sarah Baldwin, a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and trauma-trained Life Coach, explores the intricate world of secure attachment and its profound impact on relationships. She delves into how early attachment experiences shape partner choices and emotional responses. Baldwin shares transformative strategies for overcoming anxious and avoidant styles, emphasizing that change is possible. Listeners learn how fostering self-security can lead to deeper intimacy and healthier connections.

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Disconfirming Experiences

Disconfirming experiences show our nervous system that something once unsafe is now safe.
These experiences rewire our responses, moving us from dysregulation to ease.

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Childhood Needs & Adult Relationships

If you were yelled at as a child for asking for your needs, you might avoid doing so as an adult.
Disconfirming experiences, like having needs met safely, can rewire this response.

INSIGHT

Attachment Blueprint

Early childhood attachment forms the blueprint for adult relationships.
Our nervous system seeks familiarity, even if that familiarity is unhealthy.

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Talking points: attachment, relationships, intimacy

You’ve heard about attachment. Maybe you’ve discovered you or your partner (or both!) have a specific kind. Ok, cool. But what do you DO with that info? How do you move forward?

That’s exactly what Sarah Baldwin and I sat down to discuss. From the deep origins of our survival strategies, to their impact on intimacy, and how to work WITH it all and get some self-security going. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - What is a disconfirming experience?

(00:07:54) - How do our early experiences with attachment inform the partners we choose later?

(00:17:15) - Remember this is all subconscious, very human, and can be changed with work

(00:27:47) - What happens in someone’s body when they have a more anxious or avoidant attachment style

(00:35:38) - Insights on what to do if you’re avoidant or anxious

(00:43:33) - What CAN a securely attached relationship look like?

(00:50:57) - How does all of this impact intimacy?

Sarah Baldwin is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and trauma-trained Life Coach who specializes in helping individuals overcome emotional barriers and trauma. With training in somatic healing, polyvagal theory, and inner child work, she guides clients through a transformative process to achieve a more fulfilling life. Through multiple modalities, Sarah offers a comprehensive coaching approach that to fully support her clients’ growth and well-being, no matter where they’re at in life.

Connect with Sarah

-Website: https://www.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahbcoaching/

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Sarahbaldwincoaching/

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