Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

Ep. 35: Developing Intimacy and Autonomy

Sep 10, 2018

37:13

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Rick Hanson, a renowned expert in neuroscience and personal development, joins the discussion to explore the delicate balance between intimacy and autonomy. They delve into how maintaining independence can enhance emotional connections and the importance of establishing healthy boundaries. The conversation also touches on the impact of childhood experiences on adult emotional expression, revealing how societal pressures can overshadow authentic communication. Listeners will gain insights into fostering self-awareness to nurture deeper, more satisfying relationships.

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Balancing intimacy and autonomy is essential, as secure attachments enable personal independence while enhancing emotional connections in relationships.

Childhood experiences and cultural norms significantly influence an individual's ability to express needs, affecting their intimate and autonomous dynamics.

Deep dives

Understanding Intimacy and Autonomy

Intimacy and autonomy are critical themes in human relationships that often exist in a delicate balance. The podcast illustrates how these two concepts can complement each other; for instance, a child's healthy attachment to a caregiver fosters independence as the child explores their environment. This secure base facilitates autonomy, enabling individuals to engage more fully in their relationships. Recognizing how intimacy can support autonomy and vice versa is essential for developing deeper connections without sacrificing personal individuality.

Intro

2min

Balancing Autonomy and Intimacy

9min

Understanding Emotional Expression

7min

Intimacy vs. Autonomy

8min

Establishing Boundaries for Emotional Well-Being

3min

Balancing Autonomy and Intimacy

8min

Dr. Hanson and Forrest begin a new strength, Intimacy, with a discussion focused on how to balance two seemingly conflicting goals: maintaining our independence from other people while also forging emotionally intimate relationships with them.

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The material in this podcast comes in large part from our book Resilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength, and Happiness. If you like the podcast, you'll love the book!

Timestamps:

1:40: How does intimacy support autonomy?

3:50: What does appropriate autonomy look like?

5:30: How does autonomy support intimacy?

8:50: The importance of choice.

10:25: Is there a biological basis for preferences for intimacy or autonomy?

12:35: The ways we inhibit ourselves.

16:10: Where do our inhibitions come from?

19:15: How issues with autonomy can disguise themselves as problems with intimacy.

21:55: The oppression of the internalized audience.

24:45: Focusing on your own experience.

26:20: How to build healthy emotional boundaries.

29:00: Remembering when things went well.

30:30: Asserting your autonomy inside your own mind.

34:15: The importance of balance.

35:20: Recap

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