Ryan And Wife Samantha Holiday On The ability To Handle Frustration
Sep 23, 2023
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Ryan, father and podcaster, talks with his wife Samantha about the importance of handling frustration well, modeling behavior, validating children's feelings, and the pressure to perform. They also discuss parenting lessons from donkeys and the power of persuasion.
The ability to handle frustration is a crucial life skill and modeling positive reactions to frustrating situations can help children learn effective coping mechanisms.
Validating children's feelings and creating an environment where emotions are acknowledged and understood can teach them how to handle frustration.
Deep dives
Modeling Frustration Handling
Children may struggle with handling frustration and the speaker reflects on how they may be modeling such behavior after observing their own reactions to frustrating situations, such as internet freezes or stubbed toes. They emphasize that the ability to handle frustration well is a crucial life skill and discuss the challenge of teaching it, noting the importance of consciously modeling and acknowledging positive handling of frustrating situations. Reflecting on and discussing strategies for dealing with frustration can help children learn effective coping mechanisms.
Identifying and Validating Feelings
The speaker highlights the significance of identifying and validating children's feelings as a means of teaching them how to handle frustration. They contrast their own experiences as children, where they were often told they were fine even when in pain or upset, with their goal of helping their own kids recognize and communicate their emotions. By encouraging children to express their feelings when faced with challenges or falls, parents can create an environment where emotions are acknowledged and understood.
Balancing Pushing and Providing Space
The speaker reflects on the importance of finding a balance between pushing oneself and giving oneself and their children a break. They acknowledge their own tendencies to push hard in various aspects of life, including parenting, and the guilt that often comes with it. However, they also highlight the value of recognizing the positive aspects of pushing oneself while being mindful not to unintentionally impose those pressures on their children. Creating an environment where children can pursue their own interests at their own pace, respecting their boundaries and limitations, is emphasized as a way to maintain balance and avoid overwhelming them.
On this weekend episode of the Daily Dad, Ryan talks with his wife Samantha on being the model for our kids and the ultimate skill on the ability to handle frustration.