213: Who’s Sitting in the Board Room of Your Brain? with Adrian Klaphaak (Pivot Crossover)
Aug 8, 2023
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Adrian Klaphaak, a coaching expert and practitioner of Internal Family Systems therapy, joins Jenny to discuss the concept of the 'boardroom in your brain.' They explore the different voices or parts that influence thoughts and actions, and share personal experiences and homework on identifying these voices. They discuss three different board members in the brain: the one that wants you to work harder, the one that demands surrender, and the one that tries to figure everything out. They delve into internal struggles and self-doubt that entrepreneurs face, as well as explore the presence of a disengaged Buddhist monk in the brain's boardroom and the internal conflict between different aspects of oneself.
Separating out the different voices in our heads during times of change can provide powerful clarity.
Prioritizing self-care and well-being is essential in maintaining a balanced and nourishing lifestyle.
Engaging in immersive, joyful activities and seeking moments of playfulness and adventure is vital for personal growth and fulfillment.
Deep dives
The Business School Professor
The Business School Professor is a critical voice that constantly measures the way the business is run against traditional best practices. It fears failure and believes that following the established rules will bring stability and abundant cash flow. It motivates Jenny to follow the book and be seen as successful, providing security and freedom.
The Buddhist Monk
The Buddhist Monk represents the need for peace and quiet. It craves silence and solitude to maintain a sense of harmony and protect Jenny's core essence. It fears that the chaotic external world will overwhelm and crush her spirit. Its motivation is to create an environment of tranquility and connection to Jenny's inner self.
The Dog Walker/Podcast Listener
The Dog Walker/Podcast Listener represents Jenny's need for immersive, joyful activities and passive connection to the world. It checks out from the overwhelming business and finds solace in the simple pleasure of being with her dog in nature, listening to podcasts. It reminds Jenny to prioritize her own fun and seek moments of playfulness and adventure.
The Director of Fun
The Director of Fun represents Jenny's desire for more wild and adventurous experiences. It brings a sense of spontaneity and creativity to balance the chaos of parenting and business. It nurtures Jenny's need for exploration and unbridled joy.
The Chief Wellness Officer
The Chief Wellness Officer promotes self-care and prioritizes Jenny's well-being. It advocates for selfishness and self-advocacy, ensuring that Jenny's needs and desires are met. It aims to create a balanced and nourishing lifestyle focused on holistic well-being.
The Self
The Self is the core essence of Jenny, representing wisdom, courage, and deep authenticity. It witnesses all the different parts and experiences, guiding Jenny towards her true desires and values. It encourages her to prioritize her own needs and helps her find harmony amidst the various voices in her mind.
Who is sitting in the boardroom of your brain? Who is sitting around the table, challenging your decisions, making noise, and offering critiques?
Today Adrian and I are walking through one of our favorite coaching exercises by offering up (and coaching each other through) identifying and describing three of our current loudest board members and who we want to hire moving forward. This work connects to a therapy tool called Internal Family Systems which Adrian will share more about in our next episode together.
This crossover episode originally aired on the Pivot podcast on April 23, 2023.
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More about Adrian: Adrian Klaphaak is a coach, purpose guide, entrepreneur, and founder of A Path That Fits Career and Life Coaching. His coaching approach is holistic—a constant balance between getting results and a quest for meaning and fulfillment. He describes himself as “a deep seeker with a constant itch to make things happen.”
🌟 3 Key Takeaways
We all have parts of us that seem like voices in our heads speaking from different perspectives. When experiencing change, separating them out can provide powerful clarity.
Ask questions and imagine (or write) the answers from each of your board members. What is each one's primary motivation? Their biggest fear? What are they trying to protect you from?
What is the bigger vision coming from your more critical board members? For example, that you experience greater peace, success, time with your family, etc.
✅ Try This Next: Brainstorm your current board members, either on a piece of paper or together with a friend. Make a list of as many as you’d like, and build out the description by personifying them: What are they wearing? How are they acting? What is their primary fear and their primary motivation? What do you want to say to each one? Bonus: Who are the three board members you’d like to hire moving forward to help bring out your best self?