Ep 29 - How to Talk Dirty with Confidence: Expert Tips from Luna Matas

May 7, 2025

Luna Matatas, a Toronto-based sex and pleasure educator, shares expert tips on embracing dirty talk with confidence. She explores the common barriers to erotic communication and practical techniques to overcome them. Luna emphasizes the importance of connection through sensory details, tone, and playfulness in dirty talk. She also discusses balancing preferences in sexual relationships and the significance of body positivity in the pursuit of pleasure. Tune in for valuable insights into enhancing intimacy and fun in the bedroom!

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INSIGHT

BDSM Supplies An Erotic Anchor

BDSM often makes dirty talk easier because it supplies imagination and archetypes.
Non-kinky sex can feel like blunt words without an erotic anchor.

ADVICE

Narrate What’s Happening

Narrate the moment by describing sensations and actions you see or feel.
Pair specifics with a compliment to make dirty talk feel grounded and real.

ADVICE

Same Words, New Delivery

Use the same words with different pitch, cadence, location, and volume to create variety.
Shift placement and intensity instead of memorizing long scripts.

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Ep 29 - How to Talk Dirty with Confidence: Expert Tips from Luna Matas

What really holds people back from talking dirty in bed? In this episode of The Kink Consultant, I sit down with Luna Matas who is a Sex and Pleasure Educator, to break down why dirty talk is so hard for so many of us, and how to stop overthinking and start connecting.

We explore Luna’s unique approach to helping people get out of their heads and into their bodies using fantasy, narration, and even some kink-inspired techniques. Luna also shares her favorite tools for unlocking sexy communication, some tips on how to create emotional safety for expression, and why “awkward” isn’t a reason to give up.

Whether you’re a total newbie or just looking to sharpen your dirty talk game, this episode will give you a new perspective on sexual confidence, intimacy, and how we can all learn to use our words for connection and play. Tune in for some fun and a whole lot of truth you’ll want to bring into your next bedroom adventure.

Episode Highlights:

05:09 Techniques for Effective Dirty Talk

08:57 Building Sexual Confidence

09:46 Practical Tips for Dirty Talk

15:16 Mixing Sultry and Silly in Dirty Talk

19:54 Balancing Kinky and Vanilla Needs

23:40 Learning to Receive and Set Boundaries

28:43 Body Positivity and Erotic Creativity

29:56 Continuous Learning in Kink and Sex

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