Ep. #88: Coming Out Late to My Husband: Adriana's Story, Part 1
Jun 5, 2023
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Adriana, a married woman awakening to her sexuality, discusses with her husband Darius how it has impacted their marriage and how they navigate this journey. They emphasize the importance of communication, setting boundaries, and being true to oneself. The chapter descriptions explore challenges faced, Adriana's upbringing, realizing attraction to women, navigating changes in their marriage, and future retreats and support.
Open communication and support are essential in navigating the impact of a late coming-out on a marriage.
Finding a balance between honoring one's true needs and boundaries and preserving the relationship is a challenging but necessary process.
Deep dives
Realization and Feelings of Attraction
Adriana reflects on her journey of self-discovery, realizing her attraction towards women. It started with a crush on a lesbian coworker and progressed to a realization that she wanted more than just physical experiences. She yearned for emotional connections and a polyamorous arrangement. However, they realized that they had different expectations for an open relationship, leading to a stalemate in their discussions.
Communication and Emotional Support
Throughout their journey, Adriana and Darius maintained open communication and supported each other emotionally. They recognized the importance of discussing their feelings and fears, even as they went through waves of anger, fear, and confusion. Despite the pain and difficulties, they remained dear friends, providing comfort and understanding to one another.
Challenges and Difficult Decisions
Navigating the complexities of their situation, Adriana and Darius faced various challenges and difficult decisions. Adriana felt torn between the promises of her marriage and her newfound desires. They explored the idea of an open marriage, but differing expectations and the fear of emotional attachments made it clear that it wouldn't work for them. Ultimately, they reached a point of acceptance and understanding, acknowledging that they both deserve happiness.
Continued Support and Navigating New Dynamics
Despite their separation, Adriana and Darius continue to maintain a close bond and support each other through the emotional journey. They communicate regularly, sharing their emotions and reflections. It took time for the interactions to feel less awkward, but they reached a point of returning to their friendship and focusing on co-parenting their young son. The ongoing support and understanding facilitate their individual growth and adjustment to new dynamics.
In this Part 1 episode of the Coming Out Late podcast, Robin welcomes the married duo of Adriana and Darius to talk about how Adriana’s recent awakening to her sexuality has impacted their marriage, how they have navigated this journey together, and how they plan to move forward.
In this episode you will learn…
How important it is to listen to those little whispering voices inside us.
The vital nature in which “communication” really does play a role in the success of all relationships.
Take things slowly, and talk things out - talk everything out!
Be true to YOUR needs and boundaries - even if it costs you your marriage.
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