Good Inside with Dr. Becky

Men Beyond Utility with Dr. John Delony

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May 27, 2025
Dr. John Delony, a bestselling author and mental health expert, shares his insights on breaking free from the 'utility trap' that pressures men to constantly be problem-solvers. He offers relatable stories about fatherhood and encourages emotional presence and vulnerability. Topics include the importance of modeling healthy behavior, the challenges of balancing parenting with emotional support, and how validating feelings can strengthen parent-child bonds. It's a refreshing take on redefining masculinity and nurturing deeper family connections.
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INSIGHT

Yelling Undermines Emotional Growth

  • Yelling teaches kids only how to avoid punishment, not solve problems.
  • Parents must model emotional regulation to set healthier examples.
ANECDOTE

Swimming Lesson Throw-in

  • Swim instructor threw John's son in the pool to teach swimming.
  • The experience taught him the value of tough but effective skill-building.
INSIGHT

Utility Trap Limits Men’s Value

  • Men often feel their value depends on utility and having the right answers.
  • This makes admitting mistakes feel like an existential threat.
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