The Kink Consultant When Your ADHD Brain Meets Your Kinky Side with Cate Osborn
What happens when your ADHD brain meets your kink identity? Turns out, they have a lot more in common than you might think.
In this episode, I sit down with Cate Osborne, also known as Catieosaurus, sex educator, content creator, and author of The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, to talk about how neurodivergence shapes intimacy, communication, and play. Cate shares her story of being diagnosed with ADHD at 30 and how that discovery changed everything: from her relationships to her career to the way she experiences pleasure.
We dive into rejection sensitivity, safe words, aftercare, and why kink can be such a powerful framework for neurodivergent people to feel seen, understood, and safe. Cate also shares insights from her new book, a practical (and very funny) guide to adulting with ADHD, and why she believes self-compassion is one of the most underrated forms of aftercare.
If you’ve ever felt “too much,” struggled to ask for what you need, or wanted to understand how kink and neurodivergence overlap, this episode will make you feel a little less alone and a lot more understood.
Episode Highlights:
00:00 ADHD and Kink: The Overlap
12:21 Rejection Sensitivity and Kink
19:23 The Power of Self-Advocacy
21:03 Kink and Neurodivergence
24:41 Personal Kink Journeys
28:54 Normalizing Kink and Communication
Pre-Order her book here:
https://catieosaurus.com/the-adhd-field-guide
Connect with Cate:
https://www.instagram.com/catieosaurus/
Connect with Me:
https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant
https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/
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