The Kink Consultant When Your ADHD Brain Meets Your Kinky Side with Cate Osborn
Nov 13, 2025
Cate Osborne, known as Catieosaurus, is a sex educator and author who explores the intersection of ADHD and kink. In this conversation, she shares her journey of being diagnosed at 30, revealing how it transformed her understanding of intimacy. Cate delves into rejection sensitivity and its impact on consent, advocating for self-compassion and effective communication. She highlights how kink provides structure and tools that can empower neurodivergent individuals to express their needs and desires, making listeners feel more understood.
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Diagnosis As A Framework
- Cate Osborne found ADHD diagnosis unlocked frameworks to understand her life and intimacy challenges.
- She built sex education and ADHD content to fill gaps about ADHD, hormones, and relationships.
Design For ADHD Accessibility
- Design ADHD resources for accessibility: short chunks, readable fonts, and dyslexia-friendly layout.
- Include practical topics like intimacy, chores, and simple recipes so readers can use it immediately.
Self-Compassion As Aftercare
- Self-compassion functions as vital aftercare when executive function systems fail.
- Cate reframes forgiving yourself as a core ADHD survival skill, not optional kindness.
