Trust & Thrive 273: Unpacking the Covert & Overt Narcissistic Mother - with Dr. Stephanie Carinia, Clinical Psychologist
Mar 6, 2025
In this enlightening discussion, Dr. Stephanie Carinia, a clinical psychologist from the Netherlands, delves into the complex dynamics of narcissistic mothers. She explains the stark differences between covert and overt narcissism and their profound effects on children's self-identity and boundaries. Listeners will learn how enmeshment in family dynamics can stifle individuality, especially in immigrant families. The chat also provides invaluable insights on healing and fostering healthier adult relationships through self-discovery and understanding of these deep-rooted issues.
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Narcissism Comes In Different Flavors
- Narcissism has many variations beyond grandiosity and superiority.
- Overt and covert narcissistic mothers present very different relational patterns and harms.
The Hidden Hurt Of 'Nice' Mothers
- Covert narcissistic mothers often present as sweet, caring, and impossible to accuse.
- Their need to be seen as the 'good' parent prevents ownership and invalidates the child's experience.
Boundaries Collapse With Narcissistic Parents
- Narcissistic parents often cannot see their child as a separate person, so boundaries don't exist.
- Without that separation they reject differing opinions and enforce their own preferences as normative.
