David Eckel, an IFS Level 2 therapist, discusses attachment and IFS therapy. Topics include changing attachment patterns, repair in therapy, intersections between attachment theory and IFS, the role of Self in healing, differences between anxious and avoidant attachment styles, and how attachment relates to parts.
In IFS therapy, positioning self as the primary caretaker can prevent therapist countertransference and parts dominance, aiding in effectively healing attachment wounds.
Attachment avoidance involves deactivating emotions and engaging in caretaking, while attachment anxiety leads to reactivity and helplessness, influenced by childhood experiences.
Deep dives
The Importance of Self as the Number One Caretaker in IFS Therapy
In Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, positioning self as the number one caretaker can help avoid therapist countertransference or parts taking over. This approach emphasizes that self is best suited to meet and heal attachment wounds effectively in therapy sessions.
David Echol's Extensive PhD Study on IFS and Attachment Issues
David Echol's six-year PhD study at Swinburne University of Technology focuses on conceptualizing and treating adults with attachment avoidance and anxiety using Internal Family Systems therapy. His research involved a literature review, online surveys, semi-structured interviews with IFS trainers, and action research sessions with an IFS lead trainer.
Understanding Attachment Avoidance and Attachment Anxiety
Attachment avoidance involves deactivating the attachment system, inhibiting feelings, and engaging in caretaking behaviors to maintain relationships. On the other hand, attachment anxiety can lead to reactive behaviors, helplessness displays, and may involve anger to maintain closeness. These patterns often stem from childhood experiences with caregivers and impact adult relationships.
Integration of Attachment Theory and IFS in Therapy
The research suggests that IFS could function as an attachment-based therapy due to its inherent features supporting secure attachment. The therapeutic relationship in IFS mirrors secure attachment dynamics, fostering trust, repair, and unburdening of attachment issues. The model aligns with theories on attachment, offering a holistic approach to healing attachment wounds.
On today's episode I chat with David Eckel, an accredited mental health social worker and IFS Level 2 therapist in Australia. He is currently completing his Ph.D. focused on Internal Family Systems Therapy and Adult Attachment. As part of his Ph.D. thesis, he conducted qualitative research asking the question: “How might Internal Family Systems Therapy conceptualise and treat adults with attachment avoidance and attachment anxiety?” He shares some of his findings and insights.
In this episode we discuss:
The significance of attachment patterns and how they can change across relationships and contexts
Attachment defintion and history of the theory
Understanding attachment patterns in repairing ruptures (repair is key)
Intersections between attachment theory and IFS
Can we call IFS an attachment-based therapy?
"The Controversy" around internal vs. external attachment
His research process
Can parts have different attachment styles?
The role of Self in healing attachment wounds
Ruptures and negotiating separation and togetherness are normal and can be modeled in therapy
Anxious attachment may involve reactivity, helplessness, and pulling others in
Avoidant attachment may involve deactivation, caretaking, and self reliance
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Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott’s IFS Stepping Stones Program. You can follow Jack at bonzemusic on Instagram
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