651: Getting Better at Reading the Room, with Kirstin Ferguson
Oct 23, 2023
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Kirstin Ferguson, company director and executive coach, discusses the importance of leaders reading the room and gaining perspective. She shares insights from chess grandmasters and emphasizes the ongoing process of leading with perspective. Kirstin also highlights the value of expanding perspectives, building diverse networks, and reaching out to others. She stresses the importance of being proactive as a leader and introduces the Coaching for Leaders Plus program.
Reading the room is a crucial skill for leaders, involving understanding dynamics and context to make effective decisions.
Leaders should seek new perspectives and practice lifelong learning to make better decisions and adapt to changing contexts.
Deep dives
The importance of reading the room
Reading the room is a crucial skill that leaders need to develop. It involves the ability to understand the dynamics, signals, and context of a situation in order to make effective decisions and interact appropriately with others. By reading the room, leaders can perceive the moves that are to come and anticipate potential outcomes. This skill is not about having a better memory than others, but rather about perceiving and understanding the situation at hand. Reading the room is a constant process that requires leaders to be conscious, adaptable, and willing to seek feedback. It is also an opportunity to lead with perspective, simplify complex challenges, and break down big tasks into smaller, achievable goals. Leaders who read the room well can create a positive impact and make informed decisions.
The importance of continuous learning
Leaders must constantly seek opportunities to learn and grow. This includes expanding their perspectives beyond their own industry and organization. By seeking input and insights from individuals in different industries, leaders can gain new perspectives, innovative ideas, and creative solutions that they may have never considered before. This broadening of knowledge helps leaders to make better decisions, address complex challenges, and adapt to changing contexts. Additionally, leaders should practice consciousness and self-awareness, recognizing their own biases and being open to feedback. Lifelong learning is a crucial aspect of effective leadership.
Leading with the Head and Heart
Leading with the Head and Heart means balancing the need for action with a disciplined approach to problem-solving and decision-making. Effective leaders understand that leading with perspective requires considering not only the problem at hand but also the thinking process behind finding a solution. This involves zooming out, seeking broader input, and breaking down big tasks into smaller, manageable steps. It also means being intentional about the tempo of decision-making, recognizing when more time and reflection are needed versus when quick action is required. Leading with perspective also contributes to leadership around diversity and inclusion, as it involves being mindful of who is missing from the room and seeking to understand different voices and perspectives.
The challenges of reading the room and neurodivergence
While reading the room is essential for effective leadership, it is important to recognize that individuals with neurodivergent characteristics may face unique challenges in this area. Neurodivergent individuals may perceive and understand social cues differently, making it more difficult for them to read the room in a traditional sense. Leaders should be conscious of these differences and find ways to accommodate and support neurodivergent individuals in their teams. This may involve creating inclusive environments, providing clear communication, and actively seeking input from diverse perspectives. By embracing neurodiversity and building empathy, leaders can foster a more inclusive and supportive work culture.
Kirstin Ferguson: Head & Heart
Kirstin Ferguson is a company director, columnist, keynote speaker, and executive coach. Beginning her career as an officer in the Royal Australian Air Force, Kirstin has held roles that have included chief executive officer of an international consulting firm, and acting chair and deputy chair of the Australian Broadcasting Corporation. She has sat on boards of both publicly-listed and privately-listed companies for more than a decade.
Kirstin has a PhD in leadership and in 2021 was named one of Thinkers50’s top thinkers to watch. In 2023, she was appointed a Member of the Order of Australia for her significant service to business and gender equality. She writes a weekly column on leadership and work in the Sydney Morning Herald and The Age, and is also a contributor to the Australian Financial Review and to Forbes. She is the author of Head & Heart: The Art of Modern Leadership*.
It’s often apparent when someone else doesn’t a read a room, but much harder to see it in ourselves. In this conversation, Kirstin and I discuss how we can do a better job of either literally or figuratively reading the room. Plus, we explore several of the actions leaders can take to do a better job at being more proactive at moving beyond their own perspective.
Key Points
Memory is different than perception. A study by Adrian de Groot shows that chess grandmasters reply more on the former for reading things quickly.
Perception is an ongoing process vs. something any of us arrive at.
A study of medical residents shows four ways we tend to approach situations: stalled, fixated, adaptive, or vagabonds. Vagabonds in particular look at a wide range of possibilities, but don’t fully explore or rule out paths forward.
Zoom out to seek broad input. That’s especially important when the stakes are high. Also important is to get perspective outside of your industry. Reading books from different disciplines is one starting point.
Leaders needs to also recognize that people in the room are reading you as well. There’s an element of partnership that shapes how the room moves forward.
Resources Mentioned
Head & Heart: The Art of Modern Leadership by Kirstin Ferguson
Head & Heart Leader Scale by Kirstin Ferguson
Interview Notes
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